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Thu 15 Nov, 2018 10:20 pm
I have recently made a new friend. We have known each other for 3 months now. She doesn't have a car and every time we hang out, I pick her up and drop her home. At first, I was fine to do it as she is only 15 minutes away. But after 3 months, I now feel she doesn't really appreciate me going out of my way and it's just expected now.
She often says, 'so what time are you picking me up' instead of asking 'would you mind picking me up' instead. Whenever she makes plans we me or mutual friends, she does so just expecting me to pick her up and drop her off every time without even asking if that is okay.
I am going to talk to her about my frustrations. But just want others opinion on this. Do I have a right to feel frustrated here? I don't mind doing this once or even twice a week, I just want her to appreciate what I am doing as she is never really on the way to anything. And every now and again, offer to buy me a drink or something small to say thank you.
I agree, a drink or gas money should be offered, but it seems this person is not thinking like that.
In the car you might say, “First drink is on you since I’m the transportation tonite” Or announce you will be stopping for gas and “Do you have a couple of bucks?”
You have to decide if this friendship is worth 15 minutes of your time or if you have the courage to say “I’m sorry I can’t be your ride tonight.”
This is a tough situation. There has to be compassion on your part, but they need to somehow express gratitude.
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