low sex drive in boyfriend/masturbation issues

Hi

Need some advice and to rant really. Bit of history- me and my boyfriend have been together about a year and a half. Up until recently it was long distance but he has now relocated and lives very close to me (he already owned a house here). He has always said he isn’t very sexually driven- but when he lived further away he masturbated often out of habit/boredom.

So he moved back, and we probably have sex 1-2 times a week. Mostly initiated by me, sometimes mutual. It’s always great and he never has a problem getting hard or orgasming. But he has always said he never thinks to have sex and could easily do without it. says he has a low sex drive. My problem is I am getting tired of initiating it, I want to feel wanted, and I have noticed that he masturbates pretty much daily when he’s not seeing me (I have kids so we don’t spend every night together). The problem is, when we do see each other, he’s not trying it on with me. He’s admitted that wanking decreases his sex drive and says he doesn’t do it nearly as often now he’s moved back. But I am deeply hurt and mad that he will happily wank on a daily basis but isn’t bothered about sex and if I didn’t initiate I do wonder how often we would have it.

If he truly had a low sex drive, why masturbate daily?

I should add that all other areas of the relationship are perfect, he’s very touchy freely and affectionate, finds me attractive so I don’t think it’s that he doesn’t fancy me. We get along really well in all other areas.

I don’t know how to approach it with him but I am very upset and angry. I don’t want to cause huge issues but at the same time I can’t see myself just getting over it. Any ideas?!

To add, he is 36, I am 33.