@docbrown1985,
Perhaps you could use some of the time you spent online til 5 a.m. to meet someone local. Go to a show, go to a coffee shop, go to a museum, go to a park - meet someone.
You weren't going to Australia in any case. There was a chance she was hoping you'd pay for her to travel to the US and stay with / live with / marry you. There is a bit of business in that sort of thing.
Get to know some local to you women.