I can't tell if I was emotionally abused and if I was I think it might have affected me

I just realized that this was longer than expected I'm sorry I didn't mean to write my whole life story it just turned out that why. I understand if you don't all of it.

My sister and I lived with my step mom for four years since the 8th grade and that first year was okay she just had a strict parenting style she took our phones away every time we made one little mistake for a week or two it made us feel like we couldn't make any mistakes but we also could have been overreacting and all of us had to be in the living room together and we couldn't have our phones in our room but eventually I feel like she started to become controlling. In high school I started to wear black and listen to rock music, I wasn't sad I just liked it, and her and my dad told me that I looked like a freak and that people will think that I'm a drug addict she then started picking out my clothes and my hairstyles but eventually I was able to make choices about my appearance again. She also took away our social media then around our junior year we barely had our phones and we could rarely text people we were also not allowed to talk to our family members because she said that they were bad influences we couldn't even see them at my baby cousin's funeral until she talked to them but she didn't let us sit with them and she told us that we shouldn't get upset cause she lost her daughter and we just only lost our cousin. When she was off her cigarettes cause we couldn't afford them, she would make fun of us and when my dad called her out on it she got mad. When we told her we were unhappy and she told us that she did understand why when she opened up her home to us and cares for us and if we told her why she would get upset and say we hate her. She even tried to get me arrested at one point because we were keeping our cats separated and I kept asking her if I could give my cat some water but she was and I already irritated her she said I hope that the cat dies and threatened to throw my cat outside then when I freaked out she took my cat outside then I told her that she can't do that cause that's animal creulty she then hit me at least 4 times while I was laying down and then my reflexes kicked in and I kicked her she then lost her balance fell into my dresser after that she treated me terribly for about two months I almost couldn't go to school the next day she told everyone that I got mad and kicked her across the room and when things started to get a little bit back to normal she threated to get me arrested every time I did something wrong. My senior year I realized I didn't really have energy to talk to people and I didn't really want to go do things. Sometimes at after school activities I would go to the bathroom and cry for at least 30 minutes and at home when I went to sleep and for some reason I stopped eating until I couldn't handle it anymore. I thought I would get better when I turned 18 and moved in with my mom I'm starting to have a little more energy to talk to people but I still don't want to eat, I apologize a lot when I talk to people, and I met this guy who I found out smokes and every time I smell smoke I think of her I don't want to be judgemental but I get scared every time I see someone smoke.

I don't know if I was emotionally abused or if I'm just overreacting and this was just strict parenting all my friends tell me I was abused but I really don't want to say that I was abused and I just really want to know if I should see a therapist.