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Thu 2 Aug, 2018 04:58 pm
* stares at me for a long time and smiles
* gives compliments like "I love your facial expressions", "You're an incredible person", "It was nice talking to you", "I look forward to seeing you soon"
* mirrors my actions/tries to find common interests between him and I
* looks down at my butt as I walk past him
* sometimes watches and smiles at me as I walk away
* fixes his hair a lot
* fidgets around me (twists his ring)
* hugs me tightly
* wonders and is surprised that I'm single when he asks me
* occasionally talks in a lower, huskier voice than usual
* says he cares for me deeply and respects me
* at least once every year, he says that he's been watching me
* often breathes deeply during our conversations and when he first sees me
* gets perky when he first sees me
* keeps asking me if I'm going to attend social events that he's thinking about going to rather than just making plans for our upcoming sessions
* pauses for a few seconds before calling me his client (he says, "I know you. My normal to regular......client.")
He's a 30 year old married man and I'm a 20 year old single woman. He's been my psychologist for a couple of years now.
@willow11,
You should get another therapist. It doesn't matter whether you are right or not, the vibe you are getting sounds downright creepy (and unprofessional).
A therapist is supposed to be a strictly professional relationship. You need to be able to trust your therapist to act professionally.
I don't think you should go back. Find someone who you can trust.
@maxdancona,
Agreed. This is not a good path for this therapist/patient relationship to be starting down.
This is called “transference” and is more about your feelings than anything.
Why don’t you ask him if he’s crushing on you?
A sigh can mean so many things...
It’s probably time to get a new therapist. The situation sounds uncomfortable.
@willow11,
Personally, I would be reporting him.
Hugs you tightly and tells you he cares deeply for you and respects you, he's been watching you, he's married and in a profession where he is "meant" to be professional.
Even if he does have a crush on you, this could be dangerous for "someone" one day and remembering "he's married".
@willow11,
Given your other questions, I'd suggest you talk directly to your therapist about this.
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