My seperation so far...

my wife and i have separated, we had issues with before we went into this relationship, i had anger and anxiety issues and she had relationship issues from the past, boyfriends and bullying at school, her mum made her leave the house when she was 18 to "fend for herself".

Our marriage has always had its ups and downs, like all marriages do. I would get irritated by the things she would say and her sulking if i didn't do what she wanted. When we first go together I had been in 2 terrible relationships and wanted to be a fresh new man, unfortunately I thought I could manage these things myself, I had been going through alcoholism and quit smoking by myself before without help so i thought i could just "forget" my problems and move on.

We very quickly moved in together, got engaged, seemed to share the same life goals, wanted children, house, cars you know the normal family type stuff, we were both ready and it all started to go as planned.

Everyone said it was too fast but we both felt right together doing what we wanted, I moved into her flat after a couple of months, got engaged 6 months later, married 9 months later, had our first child 9 months after that. Our first child was 18 months old when our second was born.

I never felt like a good enough father or husband, she worked in childcare and to a point followed her about how to raise the children, still had my own input to bring which she listened to. I didn't adjust very well though, my "spare" time was now gone and i would do a lot of work to support our new life together, I would then have to spread myself between work and home and family, don't we all?

She would tell me that I need to work less, spend more time with the family, I knew what she was saying but I would respond with we need to pay the bills, clearly not what she wanted to hear. This would however completely change if I did something for her side of the family then it was fine, that confused me.

2 years down the line and I am feeling so burnt out that I can't keep my anger under control like I once could, she would tell me i need to get help but I just buried my head, thinking it would be fine once we were debt free.

We had to borrow some money from a relation because I overspent that month and she was not happy, she wanted to take over running the finances and asked her mum to help, they decided to take my bank card and I needed to listen so we could get on track. I said to my wife that I was happy to let her do the money but didn't think we need her mum involved with it.

This went on for a month and I was fine most of the week until the day her mum would come round and my wife would totally change, One day I came home and she and I had a much bigger argument than usual about how much I felt like she had pushed me to the side. A paranoid part of me thought at this point she was running finances so she could know what was going on to leave me but I didn't want to say anything as I didn't want this to be true.

Then she said if I don't get help she's leaving, packed a bag and said she was taking the children. I convinced her to stay, went to the doctors the next day to explain. He said to try yoga and meditation, something I was not happy with and told my wife it felt like as waste of time.

Another week went by and on the day her mother came round again the same thing happened she was questioning me about money and i snapped again, she at this point she was done, her mum came round and told me I need to leave and give her the keys and they would be in touch. I went to the doctors the next day to explain how serious things had become he put me on anti depressants, at this point I felt it was too late.

I seriously would want to work things out with my wife, I have now started CBT, counselling and acupuncture to get myself right for me. She's telling me were done and we can amicable and "friends" for the children. I asked her about divorce and she wasn't bothered, maybe in time if we find new people…wasn't happy with that answer.

I have been doing a lot of research into her behaviour about this and she's been very cold about the breakup to my face but our dynamic has changed and we talk and are getting on much better than before, even flirting a bit. She still tells me that she doesn't want me to get false hope so I'm just trying to move on and not think about getting her back.

Please be blunt with me, I don't want to be stuck in limbo. This has been going on a month so I know its early days but I would like other peoples opinions please.