Absence makes the heart grown fonder, or out of sight out of mind

Out of sight/out of mind is my way.

aka if you can't be with the one you love, love the one you're with

I've experienced both. When I was in the Air Force and got transferred to Morocco for one year. Now, at my age, I forget most things I can't see. That's the reason when something is in the frig like ice cream, I forget about what's in there.

I think it depends on how deeply the two feel for each other (and the maturity of the couple).

If it is really a deep relationship I go with the first. However, it is not - then the second.

I have been involved in both - and had each situation.

Back in the late 1950's, I was stationed at Travis AFB, and my girlfriend lived in San Mateo. I used to hitch-hike on weekends to go see her. When I got my order for overseas assignment, I told her we will get married when I returned - and after I earned another stripe (to buck sergeant). After my one year assignment and my promotion, I went to see her, and she was already married. A short story that turned out okay, because I met another woman who became my wife.

Back in the 80s I went away to college - within an hour drive of home. I had a boyfriend that I was crazy about that was back at home. I said I would be home every weekend.

While waiting in the financial aid office my first week of college this really cute senior invited me to his party the next weekend. I said oh well I am going home - he said you can't go home the first weekend....guess what I did....


PARTY!

Old boyfriend didn't last another month.

Love that story! Thanks for sharing it. It gave me a good laugh too.

Glad you could enjoy my crazy younger days.

Living through it now with my daughter - however she is much more conservative than I was - don't tell her though.

Promise.

Your story reminded me of my younger days when I was in the Air Force. I was stationed at Travis AFB (near Fairfield, CA), and my girlfriend lived in San Mateo. I used to hitch-hike to see her on most weekends. When I got my assignment to Morocco for one year, I told her we would get married on my return - after I earned another stripe. When I visited her upon my return, she was already married to another guy.

Now that I think about it, that turned out to be good for both of us. I ended up marrying a wonderful woman who has helped me with my education and work.

When I was stationed in Morocco, some of the guys who were returning to the states told me they will go see her - to date her. Who needs friends like that? LOL

Absinthe makes the heart grow fonder until familiarity breeds contempt.

Personally I would say out of sight out of mind. If you do not see the other person or see her things I think it more likely you will be able to forget them easier. Least that is my experience.

People have different experience from similar situations. Sometimes for the worse, and sometimes for the better. It's a tossup, but in my case, I say we both won by separating.

I agree completely & my experiences make me feel as I do, I do not think I will ever date seriously again because of mine.

Absinthe makes u have curved heels /\

Is the better than round heels?

Same thing, I think.

I remember running into absinthe during one of my foreign travels, but I forgot where.