women if you lived in the 17th or 18th century were dueling was legal

How would you feel if two men you loved were duel for your love and their honor. Say one was a the other man who was wealthy handsome and a powerful man in your country and a great lover . Also your family liked him better. The other man was your husband who you have children with, or your boy friend who not poor but not wealthy, with average looks. His family insisted he defend the family honor even thou the other man is a better duelist. How would you feel would be partial to one!