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You're born that way, just like het folks.

Are you uncertain about whether or not your sexuality is a lifestyle choice?

Why are opinions about the reasons for sexuality of interest to you?

Most gay people's initial thought is one of denial. Then guilt before they finally can accept who they are and move on, many still stay in the closet. Nobody wants to be different, have other people point at them and tell homophobic jokes.

It's definitely not a lifestyle choice, the very notion is absurd.