@Dutch123,
Really??? I didn't think that good marriage counselors ever did this this. Is this a religious counselor?
There is no way you can rebuild a strong marriage if you are tying to "prove to her" anything. If you feel that your wife is judging you, a good counselor would address this... this isn't helpful in a marriage. Who wants to be in a marriage where you always feel the pressure to prove yourself. That is torture.
I got a divorce. It was difficult to go through, but it is far better to be divorced than to be in a marriage that isn't working. I have never regretted it.
What is LMHT?