Need advice: My famiky hates my husband

Complicated story, I am really between a rock and a hard place. My husbabd and 5 month old went to my family's farm for Christmas. My husband took 2.5 weeks off work and spent 2500 on flights and for our dog to be keneled. He was thinking of looking at houses and jobs in my small town since I live so far from home and an havjbg a hard time but given how things went that will not be happening. Thibgs were fine accept my mom was in a horrible mood and was realky stressed and freaking out a lot. I was starting to have enough then my sister brought up how she wondered mt sister and niece would handle my baby as she seemed to be jealous and have issues about it. I got stressed thinking about it and made the remark I dont understand why I came home if it was going to be a problem. My mom came unglued on me and yelled and screamed in front of the baby so my husband came out and took the baby. My mom planned christmas eve and my sister didnt show up until 9 pm so by that time everyone else had eaten and opened presents so my sister lost it (same thing every year). Then lays in on about how my aunt only wants to see my baby and diesnt care about my teenage niece. My mom and sister start picking on my husband about every little thingbhe does in the house. My husband eventually snarks back at my sister and things turn bad. My grandpa ended up in the hospital my mom isnt getting along with my aunts so she came in and yelled at my aunt so sge left and we went in and my mom left us with my grandpa. My husband managed to bring up Jesus for short bit (Its annoying I admit( said I had a but if a difficult pregnancy no details were really shared. My aunt came unglued on my sister because sge thought my husbabd was preaching. Later my mom said she was embarrased my husband shared thibgs about my pregnancy with my grandpa and aunt (aparently they were offended.) on the drive home I told my husband not to bring up God to my family and he said he would do it if he likes basically and we got into a fight and my mom ended up threatening him some how and he threatened her back. My sons baptism was a few dats away I had phoned my sister a few times to tell her but she never answere the phone (I shoukd have texted her the info, my bad) so told her then she had plans so I thought whatever my husband told her nice to know where your priorities are (I am still mad he said something) and they got into a fight. My sister also ranted about who I chose as Godparents mean while she hasnt even come near my child yet and has been around us a few days . A bunch of other stuff happened but thats the meat and potatoes. Im embarassed with both my husbands and familys behaviour. My husbands family doesnt swear and yell and shares everything with each other which is the opposite of my family. My family treated him the way the treated me my whole life but I grinned and beared it. They treated us like we were a hassle being there. My Mom called me up this morning to tell me basically she was hoping for a nice Christmas but my husband ruined it. I avoid conflict even if it means I put up with bull s**** so I really dont know whay to do. Ive always been very passive. My family was not nice to my husband but my husband was really rude back and did stir things up. Im not justifying anyones behaviour. I feel like everyone needs to apologize but thats not happening. My husband in part os ipset because my family has not been supportive with the pregnancy or baby. My husband is so stuborn and hot headed it annoys me. I see both perspectives but feel everyone behaved irrationally. I have no clue how to handle this. I feel like I need to disengage my family or get divorced its that bad.