what would you do?

I would ask myself "Do I want to stay with him as he is, not as I want him to be?". If the answer is "yes", I'd stay. If not, I'd leave.

I would wonder where he is now putting all that time , energy, and maybe money?

He was sooooo "busy" before..I did a lot for him thinking he was overworked. Now he acts like he doesnt know what to do when Im around.

If you are asking "is it OK if I dump him?" the answer is "yes, if that's what you want to do".

He realizes he messed up but he doesnt want to talk about it. I need to talk it out to know where to go from here. He said nothing ever happened and doesnt feel like he cheated.

what are both of you doing to change that?

have you seen a counsellor? talked to a priest/minister/rabbi?

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why would you consider staying in a relationship with him?

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what would I do? ask him what he is going to do to regain my trust.

We are both trying to put it behind us, however, its not working for me. He says there is nothing to tell but with reverse psychology i got him to admit to meeting up with 3 ppl..i had him convinced i knew and he confessed. Of course nothing happened. He insists he'll never do it again but i wonder if after 10 yrs hes addicted to the the thrill of it. He still avoids talking about it and gives very little info when he does. He is going about his daily activities like it never happened while i fall more out of love everyday. I dont think hes realizes the damage hes done to me and to us. I went from a confident business woman to a walking zombie in a few short months. He thinks i just need more sleep. Just about ready to throw in the towel. Thank you all for your advice.

Unless you can verbalize what you want him to do or be , don't expext him to read your mind. He's been bad. He got caught. He now doesn't know what to do. (Pity him)

Join a gym TOGETHER.

Get hobby or do a project TOGETHER.

Travel TOGETHER.

Find out if you even like each other now.

But you have to allow him to prove he can change.

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How does he even qualify for Twins Realm (dating for sets of twins with other twins) if he doesn't have a twin of his own?

1. try to figure out why you want to stay in the relationship

you'll start to sort out what needs to happen once that's clear in your mind

I guess you'll have to make it clear that not talking about it isn't an option if you both the relationship to continue.

He needs to at least see a counsellor on his own if not with you.