Tue 31 Oct, 2017 04:27 pm
I genuinely enjoy spending time with his kids and there have been no problems in that respect. We all get along very well.
But I struggle to deal with the idea that the kids are a constant reminder of his previous relationship and his life without me. I feel jealous that they are not my kids and they are very important to me.
I'm trying to put my insecurities aside and enjoy time with him and them. But it's very hard and I struggle to not be bitter.
This relationship is not for you.
If you cannot deal with his past and the whole package, then break up with him.
His children will always come between you - in your mind.
Is this the first time you've ever dated someone?
Pretty much everyone over the age of 14 has a prior romantic history. If this is a problem for you, you're going to have a problem as an adult. Everyone's got a history.
You quite clearly need to talk about this with your partner. Speaking from experience this is a big issue that you need to try to fix.
How do YOU cope???? Do the children and Dad a big favor and move on.
Seeing as you put it so "gently" I got the hell out!!
Look to the animal kingdom for answers. Especially lion packs.