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My partner has kids from a previous marriage, how do I cope?

 
 
Reply Tue 31 Oct, 2017 04:27 pm
I genuinely enjoy spending time with his kids and there have been no problems in that respect. We all get along very well.

But I struggle to deal with the idea that the kids are a constant reminder of his previous relationship and his life without me. I feel jealous that they are not my kids and they are very important to me.

I'm trying to put my insecurities aside and enjoy time with him and them. But it's very hard and I struggle to not be bitter.
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centrox
 
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Reply Tue 31 Oct, 2017 04:39 pm
This relationship is not for you.
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PUNKEY
 
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Reply Tue 31 Oct, 2017 05:03 pm
If you cannot deal with his past and the whole package, then break up with him.

His children will always come between you - in your mind.

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ehBeth
 
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Reply Tue 31 Oct, 2017 06:52 pm
@ravengirl,
Is this the first time you've ever dated someone?

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Pretty much everyone over the age of 14 has a prior romantic history. If this is a problem for you, you're going to have a problem as an adult. Everyone's got a history.
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Agent1741
 
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Reply Mon 4 Jun, 2018 08:32 pm
You quite clearly need to talk about this with your partner. Speaking from experience this is a big issue that you need to try to fix.
glitterbag
 
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Reply Mon 4 Jun, 2018 09:23 pm
@Agent1741,
How do YOU cope???? Do the children and Dad a big favor and move on.
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Agent1741
 
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Reply Fri 8 Jun, 2018 08:10 pm
Seeing as you put it so "gently" I got the hell out!!
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McGentrix
 
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Reply Sat 9 Jun, 2018 04:50 am
Look to the animal kingdom for answers. Especially lion packs.
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TatiCoen
 
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Reply Sun 14 Apr, 2019 03:22 pm
I don't see a real problem. Just deal with it. If u love this man, try to love his kids.
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Meriner
 
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Reply Sun 28 Apr, 2019 06:47 am
Unforrtunately, women don't like kids from ex-wifes. But try to like them, ur man will appreciate this.
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maxdog
 
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Reply Sun 14 Jul, 2019 04:00 am
@ravengirl,
some people lose great occasions to have a so much wanted partner that they like because there are kids involved , i don t blame them.but when in that situation yo must choose i think .
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