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Thu 19 Oct, 2017 12:00 pm
Hello everyone.
I'm 20 years old and a male.
I'll get straight to the point. I get aroused when I look at porn (lesbian, girls, straight etc.), but now when I'm with girls, I don't. I don't know what has happened to me. I used to masturbate 3 times a day, didn't matter where I was or who I was with. Now I don't do it, because I don't get aroused anymore. I have only been with 1 girl, and I couldn't get aroused with her. Not because she wasn't attractive, trust me she was, but I just couldn't. When ever we had sex, I couldn't stop thinking about porn or masturbate whenever it was over, but I could masturbate while thinking of her, and now it tears me apart. I want to be "normal" again..
It is so embarssing to talk about this, but I really need to get help. If somebody want to make fun of this, go ahead, I can take it, but it's still not nice, you know. I want to have a normal relationship again, without the thought of masturbation or porn. I easily get aroused when I look at porn and with my right hand.
Anybody who can understand me? Anybody who knows what I'm going through? I just want help...
@Michael2435,
Well for one, if you were masturbating 3 times a day and watching a lot of porn you possibly have desensitized yourself to real-world sexual interaction. That's a thing. Porn is not reality it is fantasy, and excessive consumption of it has precisely this risk: that the real thing no longer is as interesting as the fantasy world. You might want to try giving it a long break and see if it changes anything for you.
Of course, I want to add the standard caveat that you can always seek medical help with either the mental or physiological aspects of arousal as there is limited help strangers can provide.
Quote:You might want to try giving it a long break and see if it changes anything for you.
I would suggest masturbating no more often than once every two weeks, (and only then if you really can't help it) and keeping this up for three months.
I am keeping myself away from porn, masturbation, and now trying to socialize more. I've just started to exercise again, so I hope I'm on the right track now. Is there mayne anything else I can do to improve my 'sexual mind'? Thank you both for your replies