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Should I try to talk to a girl a 2nd time

 
 
Reply Tue 3 Oct, 2017 01:40 pm
I kind of have a problem. It’s been 3 months since i got out of a 2 year relationship and just now starting to get back out there on the dating seen. So on the first day of school ( college student ) my teacher made the class get up and introduce are selves to someone in the class and luckily I got to introduce myself to this beautiful girl and I introduced myself and we had to talk about are majors. Skip to after class I walk up to her and ask for her number and she tells me she doesn’t give out her number and it’s been a little over a month since then and to be honest she’s the only girl at my school that has really caught my eye since I broke up with my ex and looks wise she’s everything I look for in a girl but we are opposite in weight I’m 5’11 or 6 foot in between 285 and 300 pounds an ex football player and she’s 5’6 or 5’7 maybe in between 110 and 120 and I really didn’t walk up to here with the best of confidence and I want to try to talk to her again and I really don’t know what to say or to do and I get nervous every time she comes around and I don’t know what to do
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Reply Tue 3 Oct, 2017 01:47 pm
@Bigwildon2,
Say, "Hi, Julie (or whatever her name is), did you get that most recent assignment?"
Or "Have you been able to follow the professor for the last chapter?"
Or "Is this a great class, or what?"
Or something like that

In short, talk to her like you would to any other classmate. You really don't know each other well at all, but you have a big thing in common already, which is a HUGE ice breaker.

Have a few of these conversations, sprinkled over the course of maybe another month. And start saying hi to her when you see her on campus, or just wave.

Then ask, "I'm going to the ___ (whatever the local non-bar hangout is where they serve beverages) to get a ____ (coffee, soda, smoothies - this has to be something without alcohol). Wanna come along?"

And see what happens. If it goes well, then say, "I had a really great time. Can we go out on a real date, say, Saturday night?"

If it goes poorly, then no one's done anything embarrassing. And if she says no to going, it might be because she legitimately wants to study, or maybe she'll tell you she's got a boyfriend (or a girlfriend), or she's busy but maybe another time would be better.

You don't have to follow this script to the letter, of course. But something like this. Even if all you do is say hi a few times and it doesn't turn into anything, you'll have done something terrific, which is to reach out to another person. Even if it doesn't work out, as you can see, these things can make you nervous. Get some practice under your belt and you won't be quite so nervous next time.
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