Will my mum get in trouble becuse I self harm?

How old are you and how long is your mother away? When did all this start?

Self-harm is a mental health issue, not a crime. Someone in my extended family suffers from self-harm. In the US there is a lot of support for people who self-harm in the mental health community. I think from your writing you are in the UK... but I would be very surprised if it wasn't the same there.

You should talk to your mom and be open about it. And, you should get help from a therapist or counselor. You can start by talking to your doctor. Your nan didn't react very well (many times people don't know how to handle this even when they mean well). Tell your nan you want to get help from a therapist. She is probably trying to help you... but she is going about the wrong way. Guilt is not helpful for people who self-harm (as I am pretty sure you already know).

That being said, if you are under 18, it is reasonable for your Nan to not want you to be alone (for just a couple of weeks). In my experience, there is a time where a child and parents need to figure out how to deal with self-harming, there is a time to rebuild trust. A therapist will help both you and your parents.

Also, there is a lot of ignorance about mental health issues. Don't listen to people who don't understand what you are going through. There are also some harmful voices on the internet... I hope you stay away from them.

I hope you can get connected with healthy, supportive people who will help you.

From what I understand, guilt is a big part of what makes so difficult to deal with. Your mom will be OK, please take care of yourself... you are worth it.

And get yourself some help, a good therapist who can help you, and healthy people who can support you as a person while you deal with this.

How old are you - I am guessing you are at least a young teen from how you write. I am guessing your mom is unaware that you self-harm. If so, it is reasonable to leave you alone sometimes.

My daughter's friend was cutting herself. They are both young teens. My daughter was afraid to tell me (as she promised her friend she wouldn't say anything) and afraid not to say anything (as she didn't want her friend to hurt herself). She did tell me which was a good thing - I called her mom and let her know. Her mom got her daughter a therapist to talk with. They are so much happier now and my daughter's friend thanked my daughter for speaking up.

Please get some help - it can be stopped and you will feel so much better. Don't worry about what your nan said - like someone else said your nan probably panicked and didn't know how to handle it. Your mom won't get into trouble and I would think your mom would want to help you.

Don't worry about your mum, she can't be held accountable for what you do, and if you're over 14 you can legally be left at home on your own.

You need to do something about the self harming which is not easy. Have you spoke to anyone other than your nan about this? Is there a teacher at school, or is there someone at Connexions, or your doctor you could talk to?

I've known people who have self harmed and with the right help it will get better. The last thing you need right now is your nan laying a load of guilt on you because she doesn't know what to do.

This is a self harm support group in the UK, there are others. There is help out there.
https://www.selfharm.co.uk/

Take care, things will get better.