Thank you for your reply.
We have had the photo discussion 3 times, last night he confirmed he didn't see that the photos were part of our relationship. It's a family home and when his children visit they would expect to see the photos.
He told me he isn't prepared to remove any of the photos, decorate etc, we rowed and got very close to splitting, however in the end he did agree to consider having a photo of us together in the home, though I'm not sure he will go through with it.
I do try and think, why is it an issue she's the past, but it is very difficult when he starts throwing up his barriers.
I'm not trying to compare my divorce to his bereavement but I think 6 years is a long time, especially when I read this site and hear about men moving on within the year, I can understand problems that soon.
We have a wonderful time, and having been patient has got me a lot further recently, but since our break away we are back to the we can't see each other on certain days etc makes me feel sad that we had started breaking those barriers down and we have a wonderful break together and we step back 2 months again.
I want to be with him, I'm happy to take it slowly, but it's the 3 steps forward 2.5 steps back and the lack of knowing if there will ever be more!
3 months ago he wouldn't plan more than 2 weeks ahead, a month ago we planned holidays through out the year and we share cars now. But I wonder if I can plan ahead again.
I'm confused and honestly don't know what to do.
His mixed messages I love you, I'm not prepared to move on, you are coming on the friends holiday next March etc, it makes my head spin.
I offered to pay for counselling for him a few months ago, he did consider it, then stated he was better we started making plans. This of course meant he was cured and no longer needed counselling!