Toxic parents

I'm a 21 year old whose going to be 22 in august
. I've been living with my boyfriend for a year now while my parents are roughly 9 hours away from me . I left home last year due today my mom not supporting none of my choices . I'm not currently in college but I do work 5 days a week. My bf works 6 days a week and has to drive me to work everyday because we share a car.i don't have my license yet but have a permit . My parents and other family members have been down my throat and always yelling at me. they think I'm brain washed because I'm not in school and because they think my bf spends all of my money and that I'm baby sitting him all the time . Which if they actually watched us and what we do on a daily basic they would realize that he's an amazing boyfriend who makes his own money and shees a future with me . I've been with him for 3 years and my parents usto like him until he apparently " took me away from my mother" which it was my choice to leave home . I felt like the only thing that came out of my moms mouth was negative words about my bf and my life choices. Every time we talk on the phone she is either judging me/ yelling at me about what I'm doing with my life .she always makes me feel like sh**, and makes me feel like I'm not worth anything . She always assumes the worst is going to happen to me such as become homeless or get pregnant etc . I was just curious to know if I should feel bad about my mother and what she is telling me or should I be the boss of my self and let her go ? I don't want that type of negativity in my life when I know I'm doing perfectly fine . I want to have a good relationship with my mom. I just don't know how to tell her that she needs to support me and my choices . I feel like if she's not gonna at least pretend to support me than she shouldn't be in my life . I can't handle the negative/ toxic vibes that come out of her