Values

perhaps you can tell us your thoughts first?

Fam, to do the right thing

Followed by certain basic philo/rel/phys, common-sense stuff we put off til teen when too late

Cooperation.

Lace their bones with Adamantium. Replace their eyes with diamonds. Replace their hair with strands of gold. That will increase their value exponentially.

Whatever we instill in someone else, is us (meaning, a stranger within them, a foreign virus)
And is an external mechanical lifeless programming, torturing them.

We can only discipline ourselves.
To discipline others is to manipulate them.

The most decisive factor in a persons behavior, is self respect.

Luckily, all humans arrive to Earth "preloaded"with it.

A good parent guards it and preserves it.

A child with self respect (which includes self esteeme), will emulate their parents,
Provided, the parent is open and honest with the child.

To say to the child, I cannot afford to tell you where I was, neither why I can't tell you,
Is perfect honesty.

Honesty is primarily emotionally,

Telling your child that you have decent self esteeme, while you battle emptiness, depression,etc.

Is a lot less protecting than telling them, I'm not a good role model in this area.

It would be better to tell them, that you are in a situation of weakness presently,

That your true self is obscured in this regard, right now.

If someone is still at it,
Drop another quarter in, I'll keep going.

A father of five (oldest is 12)