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Tue 14 Feb, 2017 06:58 am
So my girlfriend (BTW I got back with my ex) has a family issue and I know it's really not my business but because I care about her, I tend to make it my business.
So her situation at home really sucks right now. Her sister is a drug addict and since said sister won't take care of its own daughter, she babysits it day in and day out. Her parents are the only ones who can possibly take legal custody from her sister, but they refuse to do so because they don't want to, even though it would be the easiest solution. She is unable to get a job because she can't leave the kid at a day care because she does not actually have legal custody of it and cannot leave the house because she has to take care of it herself. The kid is a demon so her parents refuse to pay it attention or take care of it. Her parents want her to get a job and fight her every day, but they don't understand that she has to take care of the kid because her sister won't pay the kid attention either.
Let's see, I've suggested that she put it up for adoption, but she doesn't have legal custody, and she can't take legal custody, so she can't put it up for adoption.
Whenever she brings the topic up with me it's a really sore subject, and I find myself playing the same game we did before we broke up previously. She'll vent to me about how much her life sucks, her parents suck, and I'll have no way of cheering her up, I'll have to walk on eggshells not to aggravate her further, and any suggestion of a solution is useless because she doesn't want to hear that.
Any advice? And no, I'm not breaking up with her.
I would step in to do something myself, but I live in another country and the best I can do is offer support from the phone. She has no money, won't accept money from me, so I'm at a loss to help her in any way. I just want her to be happy because she's my girlfriend. And god dammit, I would be a pretty sad excuse for a boyfriend if I couldn't do anything for her. And believe me when I say I have enough money to solve her problem, she just won't take it from me. I'm pretty much a reckoning force at her disposal, you know? Like a loyal attack drone or something. She just doesn't want to give the orders.
She should move out, no argument, just do it, then the parents would have to step up to the plate, or else CP would step in. However I think there is more to it than just this.
@centrox,
She has no money to move out. Completely broke. Even if I tried to reason with her though, she is really very headstrong and I think she just wants to do it her way. And I don't know what her way would be, I'm not a mind reader, I'm just being supportive.