@PizzaLovah,
It sounds to me like he denigrates a lot of your life choices. And when the going gets tough, he goes out with the boys. News flash: you need friend time, too, and you need breaks from your child (as every parent does. That's not bad parenting; it's actually better parenting to give your child small tastes of independence and socializing appropriate to their age).
So tell him you're going to have a girls' night out, and not in the context of an argument, more like, "Jane and Mary and I are going out to see
La La Land. There's chicken in the fridge and wrestling's on Netflix. Have fun! See ya!"
This is not revenge. This is you having a life outside of your tiny inner circle family.
PS Him taking his phone shouldn't concern you. Why would it? Why wouldn't you want to be able to contact him in the event of an emergency?