Complicated Relationship with a friend

I've got lots of advice, and I'm sure you don't want to hear even 1% of it.

But maybe consider how much it would suck if you got divorced and were taken to the cleaners, a mere decade and a half or so from retirement.

But hey, if you want to be a Walmart greeter when you're 80 because your wife cleaned your clock, I'm sure as hell not stopping you.

she is prostituting herself

you're a John

there's nothing complicated here til someone wonders where a chunk of your paycheque is going

Do you really think so? Don't we have a relationship? I know everything she does, she tells me everything, I tell her a lot and we are friends. When she needs advise she asks and we talk through a lot of things...

Am I just trying to justify this to myself?

Yes, you are trying to justify this to yourself. ehBeth is correct. You are paying her and in exchange she is spreading her legs for you. The two of you may not view your relationship as prostitution, but it seems to me it is the same. Of course, you could find out for sure. Stop helping her financially. If she keeps spreading them for you, then it isn't about the money. If she cuts you off, then it was about the money.

You want to bet on that?

I'm sure you are. At least until she gets out of school and gets a real job. Until then, you are her meal ticket. It always pays to be friendly with your meal ticket.

It is only a matter of time before your wife will find out. Why don't you end this thing and stick to one relationship at a time. In this case, the one with your wife. Seeing as how you love her so much as you wrote originally.