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Tue 15 Nov, 2016 10:37 am
Okay so basically, I met this girl over a dating app similar to Tinder, about a month ago. We've been talking heaps an I've become quite attached to her. She's not like any girl I've ever dated she's unique and she makes me so happy when I'm with her or even when I'm talking to her. I have strong feelings for her to a point where I think I actually love her, yes I know probably to early to feel that way, but anyways.
Basically we've caught up a few times and become quite close, but the issue is she has told me she doesn't feel the same way towards me in the sense that she can't really see a future between us; at least not for the time being; she told me she does like me more then a friend but because she can't really see a future and she's not overly certain of her feelings towards me; she's still using dating apps not necessarily to find someone but to keep her options open.
The big issue is, is that when she's with me she shows all the signs that she really likes me; we hold hands, hug, cuddle, kiss and have even done a few minor intimate things. She says she misses me time to time and we talk every day all day generally; she enjoys catching up and says she's happy when she's with me.
A big factor is that she shows so many signs that she likes me hell of a lot more then what she says, like how we act is if we're "seeing each other" but.. what she says is different.. entirely.. so it's just so confusing on where I stand and what I can do to get a better understanding.
But she has also mentioned that because she isn't entirely sure how far her feelings reach towards me; and that she knows that I really like her.. and that I want to make things exclusive between us.. that she's considered ending things between us so she doesn't hurt me. It's as if she sort of knows things won't work between us.
I really do like/love her and I'm a better person when I'm around her and nothing she does or says bothers me in the slightest; so because of this I really want things to work out between us. I've toned down my affection and full on'ness towards her to try give her space to breathe; and told her I'm okay to wait and to take things slowly in hopes her feelings increase towards me.. it's just I'm now at a pickle where I feel upset and shitty most days whenever I think of her talking to other people or possibly even catching up with them.
I don't want to end things now, as I don't really care to much if I get hurt in the end.. but can anyone give me advice on to how to help her feelings towards me increase.. so that dreading moment of someone else catching her eye doesn't happen?
As I said she does like me more then a friend, but she's still so unsure of her feelings.
I have tried talking ot her about all this and it's only lead to basically her crying and saying sorry and feeling bad because she feels she's leading me on.. all at the same time as she still wanting things to stay the same.
Thanks!
@sammiboiii,
Love her harder then let her go.