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kamakshi21
 
Reply Mon 3 Oct, 2016 08:43 pm
I am a girl and I met with a guy at my college. He was my senior (2 years elder than me). We worked together on some projects and became friends. We were in a college together for 2 years but just as a friend. After that we did not talk for 1 year and we both moved in different countries. After that 1 year we started to chat and then he started to comments on my photos about how good looking I am. He wants to take part in my every single detail what is going up in my life, how I am living in a different country, about my exams etc.He was showing a true care that what I felt. Then I had a feeling maybe he starts loving me and scared to lose our friendship. I was also feeling the same.

So, I took step further and told him that I have feelings for you but he said I do not want to disappoint you it is too early for me to think about that. It is not an easy task for me to say yes or No to you.

Without replying yes or No! He didn't stop. However, he begin to talk with me on skype, and later he started to chat with me like boyfriend-girlfriend do about sex. He is so caring though but after 5 months of sexting we had an argument and I stopped talking with him for 1 month he did not even tried to make up in this mean time by doing single message. Then after 1 month I messaged him because I am in true love with him and asked the question you did not even missed me?

He said I was so busy and waiting for you to cool down.Then I said him I am coming in your city for 20 days for some work and he is so happy and wants to have sex with me on that time. I cannot figure it out If he is not in love with me then why he is interested in having sex with me and what is that care he always showed to me.

He talks with me for a whole night and talk about my life and problems but at the end of the conversation when is call about to end he starts sex stuff and then sleep immediately.


Is he is playboy because he is so caring as well or faking a friendship with me without saying yes what I should do now ?
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jespah
 
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Reply Tue 4 Oct, 2016 05:43 am
@kamakshi21,
kamakshi21 wrote:

.... I cannot figure it out If he is not in love with me then why he is interested in having sex with me ....


Oh, honey, I'm sorry I have to explain this to you.

He wants to have sex with you because he wants to have sex and sees you as a willing partner.

People who can afford to travel to each other's cities for sex can afford to travel for other reasons as well. The fact that he sees this as a sex trip should give you a clue as to what is up.

In the meantime, you have been using this sexting long distance thing as avoidance behavior and not interacting with men in your area. And the fantasy is built up because you aren't around each other. You get to see each other at your best and no one pays for anything or is at all inconvenienced.
PUNKEY
 
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Reply Tue 4 Oct, 2016 06:06 am
Thia guy is using you. He is disrespectful to you.

Why are you so willing to be used this way?
kamakshi21
 
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Reply Tue 4 Oct, 2016 11:00 am
@PUNKEY,
I am not willing to sleep with him. That's why I asked the question so that I will understand and can finish this up. This is not a good way to treat a girl , talking on phone is just for a fun to feel we are closer at that thousand miles away but it doesn't mean girl can do anything for you without his compromise in a relationship. If he has not guts to say yes to me then I will never break my moral for him.
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kamakshi21
 
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Reply Tue 4 Oct, 2016 11:05 am
@jespah,
This is not a correct way to check someone as a partner. If he will think No after sex then my heart will broken and my life ruins because of his one rubbish instinct.

I am not travelling for him, I am going for my work it is just an incident he is living in that country. So what you want to ask he is doing right , and he is in love with me but do not want to ask before sex.
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