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ETHICAL CONUNDRUM

 
 
Reply Wed 13 May, 2015 01:27 pm
Hi, I am a 2nd year fine art student doing my BA and I recently had my end of year assessment. The assessment was of no real importance if I had failed I would simply re-sit and in my prior assessment a couple of months ago I got a really good grade and I believe I will do just as well in the recent one.
As I knew that for this assessment that - unlike the others - I would not be in attendance for the 20minute presentation of work shown to two tutors (who I admire and whose opinion I respect), I made a stupid error of judgement and decided to discreetly place my mobile phone out of sight whilst it was left to record there conversation. I realise this was wrong but I had clearly give in to the side of me that thought 'what they don't know, doesn't hurt them' and seized the opportunity to get what I believed to be a more honest opinion/genuine reaction of my work. I was caught!
Whilst listening to the recording I noticed one tutor whispering to the other "he's recording this...watch what you say". They did not react by picking up the found mobile and bringing me to book, so to speak; they proceeded with the assessment, performing what - if I hadn't noticed the whispering - would have believed to be a really encouraging response to my work, laden with compliments (sometimes notably with excess in what was quite a humorous manner for each others entertainment!)
I believe their reaction was a clear sign of them sympathizing with me. I believe they understood the reason why I went to such lengths and did what in hindsight was simply a desperate act born out of low self esteem and is why they never pursued the proper procedure of disciplining me - even though I'm unsure if it would even be worthy of a disciplinary as the assessment was so insignificant. It was however an invasion of privacy.
I now feel completely embarrassed as you can imagine and I don't know how I am able to look them in the face again!!! The embarrassment feels almost too much to bare and the invasion of privacy shows me to have questionable morals, sneaky and a lacking in respect for other peoples feelings. Although I think this is untrue perhaps 70% of the time, this whole situation has forced me to confront my demons and address the missing 30% which I believe is partly due to my lack of self esteem. I have made an appointment with the school counselor today and I will really try not to be so selfish in future and give more consideration to other peoples feelings. If I am honest, I am not even sorry I was caught (blessing in disguise really!); I am sorry for invading their privacy though.
The question I now have is this: Do I act like I never heard their whisperings (during the recording) and noticed that I was caught, as I can only imagine they believe or may even want; or do I come clean and say sorry?
I doubt that they would say anything to me first as they are proffessionals and probably would like to keep our relationship the way it is, which is why saying sorry might be adding insult to injury on my part as that would mean not only invading their privacy but then putting them in an awkward position of having to listen to my excuses and probably feeling the responsibility to do something about it by helping me. So ultimately I suppose saying sorry is another selfish act by me in the form of clearing my conscience at their expense. However I think that i owe them an apology but also the knowledge that their good deeds of 1) being sympathetic towards me 2) having understanding and 3) not disciplining me and making me feel even more embarrassed - has been the catalyst for me seeking help with my mental health and gaining a better understanding of why it was wrong in the first place.
If i say nothing, I will always be reminded of how they probably think I am an absolute slime ball with questionable morals as, as far as they know, I probably have not learned from my mistake and also will probably be just as embarrassed every time I see them - not even to mention the awkwardness!!
Please help! What do I do, say sorry or not?
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Reply Wed 13 May, 2015 01:53 pm
@DESPERATETIMES,
PLEASE HELP - I realise this might seem insignificant in contrast to bigger issues but I am genuinely restless about this and in my current state can see it affecting my attendance to university and in turn my future if i don't find some sort of resolve. (any opinion is useful)
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Reply Wed 13 May, 2015 01:59 pm
I can't believe these esteemed 'professionals" allowed you to carry that out. (hiding the recorder) They could have turned it off or confronted you, right on the spot. Instead, they made a joke of the entire situation.

Maybe they don't give a crap. Maybe they are laughing or mocking you. Or maybe their remarks were sincere. Who knows? Problem is, you didn't get an honest evaluation from them. That's the tragedy of the whole thing, I think.

I would do nothing right now. You probably were not the first to try this, or the last. Maybe later on, in a one to one situation, you could apologize for eavesdropping on your own evaluation. You were looking for validation.

Most likely, they think you are just another insecure artist, not a con or criminal. But you don't really know what they thought of your work.








ehBeth
 
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Reply Wed 13 May, 2015 02:07 pm
@DESPERATETIMES,
Have you already received the grade for the assessment?
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Reply Wed 13 May, 2015 02:15 pm
@ehBeth,
not yet no. I couldn't quite make it out, but towards the end of the assessment I'm pretty sure I heard one tutor whispering to the other something along the lines of "this is going to be quite tricky for you to evaluate".
Almost suggesting that as consequence for my eavesdropping I had lost a fair assessment and I had taken their right of an open discussion about my work which would probably have made it more objective when discussed between the two of them.
The one who ultimately writes my feedback and gives my grade is my personal tutor who is the one it was suggested it would be "quite tricky for".
Just want to add - I really couldn't care less about the grade or feedback at this point! I know that probably sounds ridiculous but I am pretty confident in my ability of achieving good grades as it isn't that difficult for me to follow a criteria. The privacy invading was done out of wanting 'honest opinions' of people who I admire - when they mark my work, opinions are not really supposed to be a factor.
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Reply Wed 13 May, 2015 02:42 pm
@PUNKEY,
that's true. I can only assume that the results of my evaluation will still be as honest as they would have if I hadn't have recorded them, only the discussion between them that informs their decision may have been done afterwards or not at all.

To be fair to them, I had been discovered to have had invaded their privacy and in a knee jerk reaction they decided to put my interests first when they clearly didn't have to.

What they think of my work is not what's important in terms of getting graded - that was just my own agenda. I either have or have not done what is required to meet grades.

What I want to know is whether to say sorry or not. And in saying sorry I believe it should be done quick and painlessly to protect us both. But do I put them in a position where they might possibly need protection?

In saying sorry later it looks odd. Even for a guy who eavesdrops on his own partly insignificant assessment. Do you think?

I know it looks like I care too much about what these people think about me but unfortunately I do. They are in a position to help me and I say the assessment was insignificant because I am training to be an artist not an academic. I am there not for good grades but for time, space and money to practice making art - as well as advice from experienced artists like my tutors.
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