Hello. I am new here - new to forums so not exactly sure how to navigate my way around. Was just wondering if anyone here is in a similar situation as me. I have been having an affair for the past 10 years. We are both married but cannot leave for very different but very good reasons. It is a very long story - I never thought this would be me - but here I am. I love my AP more than I have ever loved anyone and he feels the same way about me. We are in constant communication and trust each other completely.
I know most people would judge us and say what we are doing is wrong. I myself would have done the same thing years ago. But until you have walked in someone shoes - don't judge. If you knew my story you would not judge but understand.
I am curious if anyone else who is having an affair feels absolutely no guilt. I don't feel any guilt because I really did try to make my marriage work - but it is a two way street.
So why don't you get a divorce and make a clean break?
You said you've tried to make your marriage work and it hasn't happened.
What keeps you together?
I know, Chai, yet I haven't even contemplated ...which means I am happy
with my man. If I wasn't I would change things prior to having an affair.
Once a third person enters the picture, it gets ugly.
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ehBeth
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Wed 29 Apr, 2015 10:48 pm
@LoveOceans,
What do your spouses think about your long-term affair?
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CoastalRat
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Thu 30 Apr, 2015 06:44 am
@LoveOceans,
Is your husband involved with any women outside of your marriage? If not, maybe telling him about your affair would be nice since it would give him the opportunity to decide if he wants to stay married to a cheating slut. If he is involved with other women outside of your marriage, then I guess you two are on the same page, in which case I would shrug and congratulate you both on coming to an understanding, although in that case I really don't see the point in staying married anyway.
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Frank Apisa
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Thu 30 Apr, 2015 07:04 am
@LoveOceans,
Yo, LoveOceans...
...let us know how that "don't judge me" thingy works out in this place!
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PUNKEY
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Thu 30 Apr, 2015 07:21 am
10 years! Where do people get the time and energy?
What are the "reasons" you can't be together? Usually, it's money (property, business), status (church or community) or the kids.
Come on, why haven't you made an effort to be with your real love?