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Sun 26 Oct, 2014 02:02 pm
Been friends with a lady for over 10 yrs now. We both are married and approx. 8 months after we met we had an affair, which has been on going now for 9 yrs.
I love this lady very much and my marriage has been nothing for past 11 yrs. I have only stayed in it because of a business partnership we are in. But we have (my wife) had no physical contact in over 6 yrs.
The lady I am having affair with had told her husband about it 8 yrs ago and he continues to use quilt trip on her (kids, family ,finances,etc.) when she wants to leave. She fears he would lose his home if she were to leave and like me I would like for him to not hit bottom either but to move on and prosper as well. She says she just isn't in Love with him but doesn't hate him.
Even though we have had sex it isn't all about that. Numerous times we just meet and talk, walk or lay on the river banks looking at stars. Never thought someone could make me feel as I do when with her and she says the same. Sometimes she will call in the very early morning hours just to talk as well. I do love her and she says she loves me as well, but sometimes I am curious as to if she will ever leave him. Just kinda crazy at how the feelings are still so strong after all these years.
Just looking to see if anyone has ever been in somewhat same situation and how it turned out.
@dreamsalot,
I bet your wife could give you some advice. Why not ask her?
@jespah,
Seriously she said to find someone else 7 yrs ago. She just want leave for some reason. Says she doesn't love me ,but doesn't hate me either lol
@dreamsalot,
Since you're staying in your marriage for business reasons, why does it matter if the other woman is still in her marriage? seems like you've both got a good setup - particularly if both of your partners know of your relationship.
@ehBeth,
I want her and her 24yr old son out of my home. They are both filthy house keepers and very tired of coming to my home and it all piled up.Meaning dishes across every counter top, unable to use dining table for stuff piled on it, and dirty clothes laying in every room. Don't know how to post pics here or I would show. My personal feeling is wife doesn't want to be here or she would do more than lay in the bed all the time and keep a half way clean home also.
@dreamsalot,
Didn't you say you were in the marriage for business reasons? does that mean you have to continue to live in the same home? you can stay married but live separately.
Set up counselling with your wife to prepare for a separation and get yourself a lawyer to make sure you're doing things in a way to allow you to keep your home (if you are the sole owner).
@glitterbag,
Me ?? If so not feeling one
@dreamsalot,
Did you mean guilt? Because I don't know what a quilt trip is, I've heard of quilting bees, but never a quilt trip. Is it even possible to have a guilting bee.
@glitterbag,
Why not say what you are thinking.. You were the one that ask what a guilt trip was
@dreamsalot,
No, I want to know what a quilt trip is, thats exactly what I'm thinking. Have you ever been on a quilt trip? Are they normally conducted in Amish Country?
@glitterbag,
Well I've always thought a quilt trip is when someone feels bad about something they have done and will try to make amends against their will which doesn't usually work.
@dreamsalot,
A quilt is like a blanket, guilt is what you should feel when you are messing around with someone else wife. So, how do you go on a quilt trip?
@glitterbag,
ok ok so I need spell check here lol..... sorry I guess
@dreamsalot,
Well maybe your wife would be happy making quilts for your girlfriends husband, and your girlfriend would enjoy cleaning your house. Get creative. Your original post was pretty creative, tap that imagination.
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