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Firelover
 
Reply Mon 24 Mar, 2014 06:25 am
I'm seeing another mans wife. Her & I have the most incredible chemistry we have ever known physically, spiritually & mentally. We have never had an awkward moment or were never uncomfortable or even hesitant since the very first time we met. She has told me (& I feel the same) "It's like we were married in another life".
Everything is natural between us BUT.. her ethnic background, her financial stability with him, family & friends expectations, plus she says she loves him too all play a part in her telling me she won't leave him.
I've been with many women but am against infidelity but I couldn't not be with this woman for anything in the world!
We both recognize each other as 'Soul Mates' but her "commitment" & binding with him is the obstacle between us being open or discrete.
I love her very much on so many levels and although she loves me too, she feels guilty. Her husband seems like a really nice stable guy who loves her, but he lack in ways. I'm a better lover & take her to new highs, well, our chemistry takes both of us to new highs really but I'm saying I do things she's never experienced.
It's been on a few months now.
She hasn't been with him because I'm with her a few times a week & there are 'obvious' signs he would see, taste, smell etc should she let him near, so she hasn't.
She is now also pregnant to me. He doesn't know.
I love her. I have only ever been exceptionally good, kind & caring for her.
I want her to leave him & be with me.
I don't know what to do.
Any advise may be helpful.
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jespah
 
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Reply Mon 24 Mar, 2014 06:50 am
@Firelover,
I bet she's sleeping with him, too, and may very well be pregnant by him. After all, she can't exactly suddenly have a kid in, what, 6 months and then say, "Oops, honey, I guess it was a virgin birth 'cause we haven't been having sex! Oh, and by the way, don't leave me because I get great sex on the side but I enjoy the lifestyle you're providing. So go out and keep making money, little man, chop chop! 'Cause sexy baby needs a new pair of shoes!"

I'm sorry that's harsh, but if we assume she is being 100% truthful to you (and we cannot assume that, seeing as she is lying through her teeth to her husband every single day - so her reputation for veracity is in question), then she will be kicked out of the marital home when she has the kid, and probably before, as I doubt her husband will be so clueless as to not notice that she's pregnant and they haven't been having sex.

Seriously, consider this logically.
  1. She doesn't have sex with him but she's pregnant. He is going to notice.
  2. Or she has sex with him in order to cover up her pregnancy. That makes her a liar to you and a manipulator to him.
  3. Or she was sleeping with both of you at the same time, meaning she's lying to you.


If - big if - #1 turns out to be the case, then she'll be tossed out on her ear pretty soon. And she will come knocking on your door, to live with you and have you claim paternity on her kid. And good luck on keeping her faithful, seeing the track record that she's got.

Oh, and do get a DNA test.
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Olivier5
 
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Reply Mon 24 Mar, 2014 07:23 am
@Firelover,
First, don't blow it up. What you have may not look like the whole deal, but it is very precious nevertheless. Don't rock the boat. It may not last forever and that's okay. Enjoy it while it lasts.

You say she's staying with him because of financial and ethnic reasons. Is he much richer / better established than you are? Would you care to clarify the ethnic dimension? I'm trying to figure out how "insurmountable" (or not) the problem is.
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PUNKEY
 
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Reply Mon 24 Mar, 2014 08:50 am
You are delusional.

She is using you. If she really was your "soul mate" then she would be with you - damn the finances, the culture, the family.

Now there is an innocent child in all this.

Love IS blind.
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Olivier5
 
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Reply Mon 24 Mar, 2014 10:22 am
Jeeeesh! Could you guys be more judgmental, pessimistic and depressing?

This is a love story. Maybe the poster is a bit naive but please try and respect the bliss of it.
jespah
 
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Reply Mon 24 Mar, 2014 10:37 am
@Olivier5,
No, it's not a love story. It's someone using someone else. Whether this woman is using the OP or her husband (or both), do you not see just a smidgen wrong with this?
Olivier5
 
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Reply Mon 24 Mar, 2014 11:07 am
@jespah,
With all due respect jespah, you don't know this woman and are rushing to conclusions about her. I have had an affair with a married woman once. She was not manipulative, just love-starved... Some of us do fall in love once in a while. I does happen. And it's not easy to decide what to do, when love happens to us.
jespah
 
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Reply Mon 24 Mar, 2014 11:16 am
@Olivier5,
I don't dispute that some affairs can get to happily ever after. But this woman is staying with her husband because he's got bucks. This is in the original post.
Olivier5
 
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Reply Mon 24 Mar, 2014 11:26 am
@jespah,
So what? Would she be the first woman ever to stay with a rich man while loving a poor one? This story is as old as the world.
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Romeo Fabulini
 
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Reply Mon 24 Mar, 2014 12:03 pm
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Firelover said: she says she loves him...she won't leave him.

Well that's clear enough, you're just her "bit on the side" and she'll dump you soon as the novelty wears off..Wink
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