Girl friend recalling father rape dream

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My girl friend (24) recently told me that she recalls a childhood dream she had from she doesn't know what age, where she got raped by her father. This came up in a casual but candid conversation about dreams/lucid dreaming etc. I don't think she consciously meant something by it. I have my own set of freaky dreams that I shared with her. But this one that she told me caught my attention. I just let it pass at the time but thought I would bring this up here to see what others thought.

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@ryoutsu,

People dream all sorts of things.

The best part of dreams is - they aren't real.

Unless your girlfriend has actual evidence, memories, etc. of being assaulted by her father, it's likely that this dream is more of a substitution fantasy, where the father is substituted, in the subconscious, for someone else.

See Freud (Creative Writers and Daydreaming).

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@jespah,

Thank you for you reply.

I obviously understand but just to make sure of what you are saying, you are saying that there is a possibility that she was possibly abused by someone other than her father, but is substituting "him" with her own father?

Thanks again

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@ryoutsu,

Absolutely not. What I am saying is that it's a fantasy. She's probably subconsciously fantasizing about some sort of power struggle with an authority figure.

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@jespah,

I see.
It seemed as though her dream came from her as pretty young child. I suppose a power struggle with an authority figure would be something that could start at an early age.

Thanks again

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While this forum does not consist of professional therapists, we might be able to point her to some information that will help.
From wiki:

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Child sexual abuse can result in both short-term and long-term harm, including psychopathology in later life.

Indicators and effects include depression,[6][24][25] anxiety,[8] eating disorders,[26] poor self-esteem,[26] somatization,[25] sleep disturbances,[27][28] and dissociative and anxiety disorders including post-traumatic stress disorder.[7][29]

While children may exhibit regressive behaviours such as a return to thumb-sucking or bed-wetting, the strongest indicator of sexual abuse is sexual acting out and inappropriate sexual knowledge and interest.[30][31]

Victims may withdraw from school and social activities[30] and exhibit various learning and behavioural problems including cruelty to animals,[32][33][34][35] attention deficit/hyperactivity disorder (ADHD), conduct disorder, and oppositional defiant disorder (ODD).[26]

Teenage pregnancy and risky sexual behaviors may appear in adolescence.[36] Child sexual abuse victims report almost four times as many incidences of self-inflicted harm.[37]

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Is this a recurrent dream, or a one-timer?

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@PUNKEY,

It seems to be a one time thing from many years ago. From the sound of it, maybe pre-teens dream.

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@panzade,

Thank you for the information. Not sure if too many of those points apply but she is pretty aggressive about sexual activity.

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I want to add - I don't want it to appear as if I'm just dismissing it if something really happened. But there are any number of reasons why we have the dreams that we do. They don't necessarily constitute evidence of anything.

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It could indicate a desire to wed a more wild side of her personality, particularly if she is repressed or lived a rigid and regulated childhood with dominate cool or distant parents.

Could indicate.

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@ryoutsu,

We can be thankful that dreams themselves are not reality. But, if she is troubled by it, a competent therapist might help.

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