With my sexlife, how do I satisfy her?

Hello,

I am sexualy active since I am 21 and I am now 28. I had rather few sexual partners and long relationships.
A distance relationship of 2,5 years, a 4 years relationship, a 6 months and now a 6 months.

My partners often tell me that they like and they really enjoy being with me. I love women, I found them the most precisous thing I know, meaning that sometimes I can also feel scared or overwelmed by that sensation. I can caress, kiss, touch for hours.. When it comes to penetration it is an other story.
During my 4 years relationship I started to got annoyed by the fact that I couldn´t hold my penis in there long enough to satisfy my girlfriend. I had experienced her orgasms a few times.. I got frustrated and she got frustrated too that she didn´t climax.

We broke up (not only because of sex .

I met an older women than me, with who I was together 6 months.

So since that time I had a look at my sexuality and realised that I was really focused on orgasms. My fast ejaculations were a result of my desir for perfection and control over my sexuality.
I started to understand that making-love is more a matter of flow, rythms and energies floating in the body to guide rather than control and I had some really amazing experiences with sex.
My self-confidence in bed grow, it was really playfull and nice. With this older women, sex was amazing. We would laugh and cry and do the most mindblowing things. Penetration was less a problem, as I felt our communication was so tuned that I could control the urge of coming while we made love..

Circumstances made that I met a new girl. A young girl, she is 20.
We love each other and I can tell I never loved a person before I met this person. We are also very passionate and we love to be together.

(I will write now how I feel it is).

She is less experienced, she had boyfriends. She did tell me about a boyfriend where she was so annoyed that he came so quickly that she couldn´t stand to have him in her anymore. And sometimes when we make love she rejects some of my touches.. she is less confident, for sure. But in an other way it does feel like she knows how she wants it even if she can´t formulate it with words.

We have been together for 6 months and I would like to give her the possibility to play with orgasms. And I can also feel that she is eager to go this way but somehow doesn´t dare or is scared.

My problem is that I feel that she listens less to me and that it results in me coming to quickly. Sometimes controlling the ejaculation can take me annoying long time while we are kissing and start penetrations and she looses arousal..
And I know that worse than stopping during sex for a woman is a man coming after 3 thrusts in her and falling almost asleep.
And on the other hand sometimes when I am fine "controlling" my urge to ejaculate and that I make love to her like a "tiger", she sometimes looses desir as well.

So sometimes it is too much... so times it in not enough.. And she doesn´t know herself how to do.

Am I too focused on my control? and is it normal that I need so long time to control my desir/Am I too sensitive?

Is she too unexperienced?

We don´t listen to each other?

We need to communicate more clearly about it?


Many questions.
(feels surpsisingly nice to share this)