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Tue 5 Feb, 2013 02:38 pm
My brother set me up with one of his good friends, mind you this was the first time in my forty years that my brother hooked me up....noone has ever been good enough. We meet, and it was terrific! Chemistry was there from "Hello"! Went out on a few more dates, and had a blast. Lots in common! He was open and shared alot about himself. The sex was amazing, the best sexual experience I have had. He expressd the same. Our time together is amazing, and as if I have known him forever. I get a text, because he ONLY texts, after the holidays that he thought he could be casual with me, but its too comfortable and he is scaredand can't commit because he has too much internal stuff to deal with. I backed off, but he continued to contact me. When I respond/pursue he backs off. Can a guy really be scared of something that is so good???
@fightinglove,
Sadly, yes. Unfortunately, people who are commitment-phobic at the stage of life can be that way. Maybe having a heart-to-heart conversation assuring him how you feel and that you won't hurt him...might help a bit. Life is too short to let such a good thing go ..just because of his past let-downs in love. Trust can be so elusive for some people - even when it feels good when you're together. Fear and paranoia are destroyers.
More than likely it's him that he doesn't trust about ******* it up ... it's hard to hear this...but don't take it personally. However, it's going to get fucked up if he withdraws. Don't let him come and go in your life, either.
@fightinglove,
It would be too facile to just say to be patient with him. Certainly, you need patience but not the expense of your own heart. You are the best judge of that as you are there in the line of fire, so to speak.
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