oldandknew wrote:Well in all my years of living & working in London's film & TV industry, I've never heard any female objecting to being called WOMAN or LADY.
They might get the 'ump if you call then sweetheart, darling, love or dear.
I do tend to address check out girls for example as "love" & refer to barmaids as "the chick behind the jump".
But in a business situation, everyone regardless of gender or status is always addressed by the christian name.
Hmmmm - wondered if the story was a beat up.
I see no point in objecting to being referred to as "lady" in one off situations - you know, "have you served the lady in the green shirt" - "this lady wants a cordless drill, can you help her?" - no point biting people's heads off for no reason. I do think courtesy is important.
Nobody I actually spend time with uses it anyway. They would not dream of it, because of who they are- they have their own judgment about such things, and made the decision for themselves years ago.
Ma'am??? That is so seldom used here that it would make me smile - and blink! I would see no reason to object to it (though I would squirm inside) - unless it was somebody I was going to be relating with for any length of time - in which case I would just say call me Deb. I mean, if they are calling you ma'am they must be doing it to be polite.
It is difficult, in service industries, to know what to call people. I could never come at sir or madam - except very rarely - I used to just smile and not call them anything. I don't think you should snap at anyone who is just meaning to be polite.
Chick makes me want to be sick, but it is so universal again that I would object only if it was being used by someone to whom I was going to be close. Again, nobody I spend time with would use it.
Love and such differ, I think, in context.
If it is used to demean - calling women "love" and words like that have often been used deliberately here in some situations to attempt to put the woman you are speaking to in her place. I would object very strongly if it were used in that way - and did - but few people would try that one with me or any woman I know these days! If it is used by someone who means nothing by it, I would not have a problem.