@The Pentacle Queen,
My use of quotation marks indicates the position that all "existence" involves
relationship which is
a priori to "things". Thus there are no "things", only
concepts which express relationships between observer and observed, but which are linguistically expressed as though the observer were covert. Thus the word "tree" expresses the
potential relationships, wood-iness, shad-iness, obstacle -ness etc according to personal context. There are no "trees"
in themselves, nor indeed are there "selves". "Things" and "selves" are co-existent and co-extensive.
Now you might see how this forms a foundation for the "self dissipation" or "self transcendence" of esotericism. And if we think about our reaction to "a piece of music", we might see that that "thing" evokes
one "self" as a static manuscript say, and
a multitude of other "selves" in the context of listening/observing to "it". We may report the nature of the subsequent relationship as "emotionality" , but that is merely a
post facto linguistic encapsulation of coalescence of "self" with "it".
(Heidegger/ language speaks the man / language is the house of being)