How do you measure a female's success?

None of that.

You measure anyone's sucess by how happy they are.

Very simple but powerful. You've really enlightened me. I don't know why I haven't been thinking it that way. Thank you very much. I have been chasing all of that but failed all apart from being a good mother. Felt very blue and a terrible loser for the past four years. Apart form not happy that I am not a successful career woman, I am very happy to be at home, be a house wife, not by choice but I am happy though.