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Thu 23 Oct, 2003 11:57 am
Or, to put it more simply, have you ever been the villain of your own life story, or somebody else's?
I was thinking about this in the shower the other day -- not about little instances of being an asshole, but of stretches of time, relationships, whatever, when I may have really hurt somebody else with no good reason. There are probably countless instances of hurting through willful inattention, but I can think of one stretch of time when I very definitely hurt somebody -- not maliciously, but she definitely suffered a great deal of emotional pain at the time and it was definitely my fault and I definitely deserved being slapped in the bar (should have been hit harder, actually) and booed on stage (hey, it was a dismal show anyway).
So, is there any time you look back on and think, "What a piece of sh!t I was"? Anybody been the bad guy (or gal)?
(No requirements for sharing.)
Yep.
One rebound relationship makes me wince whenever I look back on it. It was the one and only time I really took on the femme fatale role, and it had its perks, but that poor guy... ack.
lol hasn't everyone? Anyone who says no needs to look a lil deeper.
It's a hard one, but I will say no with reservation. Of course, that is a great big reservation
I have been blamed many a time - but, that was someone else
Let me go get in the shower now so I can be clearer
you have to look at yourself with an outside perspective that is hard because we are naturally bias when it comes to ourselves. Bill if you have been blamed many a time then chances are thats a sign lol
I don't suppose you mean something like dating someone who's clearly nuts about you but you don't feel the same so you don't go out with them anymore. They call, they're hurt and you know they're hurt but...to them, you're an awful person but from your perspective, you're doing the right thing.
Is this wearing the black hat?
No, wearing the black hat would be to keep dating them just cuz u wanna get laid with total disregard for their feelings lol.....thats extreme black hat. eoe there has to be someone you just didn't like so you were mean to em atleast lol
More times than i care to recall . . . callow youth was usually the cause, but i've had relapses.
There will be no details.
My conscience would beat me silly if I was mean to someone just because I didn't like them. I may avoid them, keep my distance or try not to have to talk to them but just being mean, without provocation, is just not in me.
safecracker wrote:No, wearing the black hat would be to keep dating them just cuz u wanna get laid with total disregard for their feelings lol.....thats extreme black hat.
What about high-fiving your friends after telling them about it? Is that bad too?
Just riffing on safecracker and Slappy....what if you continue dating this person you don't care for, and get them into a blindfolded, tied-up naked scenario, then have your friend pretend he's you, then high-five him afterwards and let him sneak out before she knows better. Isn't that more extreme black hat?
Wore my black hat during the entire nine years of my marriage. We never should have married. Thankfully, we're good friends now and both share the same pride with our fourteen year old son.
wait, I want to hear Pdog's definition of 'wearing the black hat'. Seems to me it might differ from safecracker's def.
What about tying her up, blindfolded, and letting the Golden Retreiver have a go at the philly?
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