"When something awful has happened to me, and I need to focus on work, for instance, I tell people not to be nice to me, or offer sympathy. I am like a gushing fountain once someone has been kind."
Me too, me too. And I use the same words. Why is it that we become so embarrased by showing understandable emotion?
That's a very good question, Diane!
I'm not sure if it's embarrassment, or fear of being seen to "lose control", or what it is, exactly ....
I recall, when coping with the traumatic fall-out of the break-up of a very long relationship, my counselor asking me (with good reason!
): "What is so terrible, why is it so hard to acknowledge the pain you're obviously feeling?" It is almost as though there's a fear of allowing
ourselves to actually feel
"the worst", that we may not be able to cope with what we find! I guess that's why counselors & shrinks are kept so busy, extracting this difficult stuff out of us?
(Hey, long time no see! Lovely to see you here again, Diane! More, more, I say!