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Tue 3 Jun, 2008 10:43 am
What's an acceptable practice for this? like when someone else is walking behiind you?
If i make eyecontact I feel COMPELLED to hold the door...
If they're juuuust outside my read, i hold the door..
but I've been right behind someone (brian!!!) and he rarely ARARELY holds the door..even when he sees the person coming.
Sometimes I think it's a bit discourteous of him and others that do this..but i realize theres no obligation for anyone to hold the doors open..
so what is the deal? Does anyone else feel like a heel if the door closes behind you and someone opens it right away - because then that's OBVIOUS that you were there and COULD HAVE held the door open...but didnt.
this isn't a rant, just curious?
I've always held the door for others, even if it involved standing and waiting for the someone to catch up. But that's a personal choice, and as you note, it's not a rule anyone is obliged to follow. I was taught to do this as a child.
I open the door for women and hold the door for others.
Watch asian males sometime if you have the opportunity. When walking with a woman, they will run ahead as if they are going to get the door, then go in themselves and let the door slam back on the female(s). It's bizarrely predictable.
And I'm talking any SE asians - even Indians.
It's a cultural thing I guess. Dunno.
I was following a group of them into work one morning and the two males dropped the door on the woman behind them - who had her laptop in one hand and coffee in the other. I caught the door before she got soaked/burned. Her smile was my reward.
i'm sure it is cultural, just can't wrap my head around it. Not that i'm not open to learning about other cultures. Just seems odd. Let me go to google. Just as odd as the woman walking several steps behind.
the world is such a large place.
All I can say is I've observed the behaviour repeatedly both at my current and at former jobs. Many asian females I've known over the years that were married to non-asians told me they didn't like asian men.
Open and hold for anyone. It depends if I'm in a hurry and how far away they are. If they're too far away, but we made eye contact, I will just call "Sorry!" and smile at them.
But no, I don't feel any compulsion. Just a natural thing to do.
simple manners extended from one human being to another.
eoe wrote:simple manners extended from one human being to another.
i know it's just manners....but how far do you take it, is what i'm curious about. I often find myself in the position of waiting (not at all being impatient) for someone to catch up (maybe they're 10-15 ft away...once in a while more) because i just can't see myself goiing through and letting it close when i know they'll be to the door
eventually
Maybe you should be a doorman
Go into buildings only with revolving doors. Dilemma solved.
i wonder how many signatures i'd get on a petition to convert every door here in the courthouse to revolving doors.
hmmmm
I believe world peace begins with revolving doors. They are so freaking democratic...
I hold it and have the same routine as Onyxelle.
onyxelle wrote:i wonder how many signatures i'd get on a petition to convert every door here in the courthouse to revolving doors.
hmmmm
You can't get such here - even can't hold the (main) door open: everyone has to enter individually ... and must close the first door before the second is opened after you've been screened and your 'things' been x-rayed : security is a handicap for polite persons in courthouses :wink:
Always hold the door, even if you have to wait.
It's the right thing to do.
End of transmission.
The look on a person's face dictates whether I hold the door or not. If they toss you a look that says, "I can get my own door, thank you.", then I let the door slam on them. If the face projects kindness and goodwill toward man, I will always hold the door and smile as they pass and I will generally say something like, "Howdy, Ma'am" or "How's it goin' dude?" or "Hurry up, kid!"
There are just so many scenarios at play in the door-opening world.
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