Sometimes we need to appreciate what we have.

martybarker
I am glad you can find happiness with that knowledge. That is not the way I felt as I held my dad's hand and watched him die. There was no happiness and never will be.

The one I loved with all my heart died in my arms in 1996. It hurt like nothing I have ever felt before. People say time heals all wounds. It hasn't for me. There is not one day I don't think about him and yes I still cry over him.

Marty

I am so sorry for the terrible loss that the lady with whom B had fallen in love with, is now suffering. I also am sorry for your loss having worked with B for many years. My heart goes out to you and them.

I do also believe that when someone dies, knowing that they die with love around them and that they are loved - makes letting go of life more peaceful - if that makes sense. In essence - I would agree that even tho his life has been cruelly cut short, he did have love around him and the little time they had together - to me... is a more valued life than living until one is 100 years old feeling unloved and not being able to show love. Just my personal opinion though.

It must be so terribly difficult for B's children and their other family with the loss of 3 family members in one week - devastating - I find it hard to imagine what they must be going through right now.

I also agree we all need to try and make the most of the time we have here, which is far from easy much of the time for many, but IMO, we get one shot at it - we have to try and make the best and make our time of value to those we care and love. I know how difficult that is for some.

My thoughts are with you ((Marty)). We should count our blessings.

Marty--

We're spoiled in the Western World about ho-hum medical miracles and facing untimely death.

Still, reality invades.

Hold your dominion.

Thanks for the responses. The reality of this situation comes and goes. I like the feeling of denial way better than the real deal. I'm just so sad.

Feeling grateful for the good we encounter in a life that is so entangled in mental torture is to retain sanity. Sometimes that good is all too fleeting, but it is real nevertheless. So I believe. Through the sadness of the loss of my mother and most of my original family, I look back, sometimes with tenderness, sometimes horror. The tender thoughts are my sanity. The horror I can deal with; I intend to outlast it.

I am sorry you feel so sad.
((((martybarker))))

We do need to appreciate what we have.

You really got me to thinking, Marty. People are always telling me how lucky I am to have had the kind of life I had growing up. And I smile and heartily agree with them.

I've had others say that I have more at my age, than most people have in a lifetime. These are just things I have worked for. I am a go-getter in my profession and it has paid off well. BUT nothing that I can honestly say that I HAVE to have materially. Things are .....well, just "things." And if I am graced with a roof over my head and food in my tummy.....that is a blessing. It doesn't need to be anything special.

So, thinking about what you said I asked myself if I really do appreciate things in my life. And at first I thought....YES!

But now, I'm not so sure because I know that I have been VERY guilty of taking things for granted. Especially the love of family. I can't even think about losing any of them!

Thank you for this thread, Marty. You have definitely got me thinking.

I think that I truly can NOT honestly say that I FULLY appreciate what I have till I stop taking it for granted.

May he rest in peace and may you find solace in your memories, marty.