Re: Having affair with happily married man?
ironicbliss wrote:Why must the example come in this form? And does this mean my ideal future mate would be a cheater?
Good question!
My advice? Stop having sex with him, clear your head, and find out the answer to that question.
Are you typically attracted to men who are bad for you? In this single post alone, you mentioned two times you have chosen men who are bad for you - a man you did not love and who you did not consider parent material when you accidentally got pregnant - while you clearly want children.
And now a married man with children of his own.
No, I have never had an affair with a married man. I have been in situations that were not black-and-white (are they ever?); and I do have experience with choosing partners who were bad for me.
You are cutting yourself short. You are denying yourself happiness and the fulfillment of your dreams. Why?
It so would be a great time to figure that out and start living a life you deserve!
It can be done. Write out all your 'reasons' and excuses for "why I can not have all that I want in a man".
Your heart clearly wants more than to be the piece on the side. Your heart wants connection and love.
He can't give you this. He can only give you sweet talk and lies. It's true.
Stop giving him any signals that he has a chance at getting in bed with you and you will see for yourself!
Just try it as an experiement. What happens if you start acting to remedy your reasons and excuses?
You say there are no single men in your town - one way to try to remedy that would be to move.
Good luck.