Two things. I was ogled recently and I felt completely objectified! Like I was a piece of meat! But I got a phone number and that helped. he eh
And two: The Onion ran a tiny joke about this waay back when we were all discussing it.
It was a picture of a beautiful woman and the caption was something like "Too hot to be riding the bus" or some such. I forgot to post it here but mebbe someone else saw it.
I saw it! Things were heated at the time, or something... I renember getting properties and everything and then saying "nahhh..." Actually I think it was the opposite... it had finally died down and I didn't want to reawaken the beast.
I saw it, tho.
Oh, I missed you there, Thomas. Yes, you're right! (Not sure about "quite a lot" but certainly an extra level of "ohhh...")
Oogling
Ogling is excessively vilified. Here are several reasons.
First, ogling (or at any rate, the kind of ogling typically resented, which I presume is what we are talking about) is something that happens between people who don't know each other very well. Accordingly, it is the type of activity that is more useful to those who from snobbishness are unwilling to start relationships with those outside their own social circle. Elitists who just start relationships (say) at exclusive social gatherings don't have much use for ogling, and these elitists criticize what they are too selfish to have a use for.
Second, females are scared by quick sexual come-ons, true, but the reasons such come-ons are scary is that they are uncommon in society at large. If they were common, females wouldn't be as scared by such come-ons. In fact, females as a whole would probably rightfully be less scared, since men being more open about their sexuality would ennable a female to more know which men exactly might be thinking they could force her into having sex. Mainly, it is the act of rape or abuse that hurts females, not her fear of such. And notwithstanding fear hurts females somewhat and women are scared by quick sexual advances (before the woman can evaluate the man to know fairly well that he is safe), women as a whole would not be more afraid if men were more quickly sexually open. Moral men and women, who realize that the appropriateness of a behavior is determined by the consequence of the behavior on society at large, are therefore more likely to appreciate male sexual straightforwardness, while immoral men and women, who care merely about their personal interests in not scaring females away and in not being frightened (respectively), are more likely to appreciate male straightforwardness.
Of course, much of the resentment about ogling is really resentment toward the sentiment possessed by the ogling male. People who think it is immoral for men to have responsibility-free sexual relationships (Dr. Laura comes to mind) naturally will claim to be repulsed by a male ogling with the aim to indicate to the female that he wants her merely sexually (and doesn't want to care for her or any offspring that might be produced). Actually, though, occasionally a woman is willing (from love, usually) to want to have sex with a man who is not willing to care for her. Therefore, Why shouldn't the man indicate fairly quickly to a female the extent to which he cares or doesn't care for her? Indeed, it is a common trick of males to postpone indicating absence of love from the consideration that if a female after spending much time with a male abandons him only after he refuses to care for her, she will look rather mercenary and as if her sexuality and love can be bought. That is the sort of obnoxious behavior that I presume Paula Abdul was singing about in her song:
...How about some information please
Straight up now tell me
Do you really want to love me forever oh oh oh
Or am I caught in a hit and run
Straight up now tell me
Is it gonna be you and me together oh oh oh
Or are you just having fun?
Of course, ogling being quick and sexual in that way (rather remotely) resembles sexual molestation, and thus like anything resembling sexual molestation, can produce irrational fears in females. But there is nothing noble about excessively pandering to females' irrational fears (though at times females like to be humored thus in play). That's the same sort of nonsensical pandering the Taliban tried to engage in to make their women wear veils and as late as the 1800's made many in the West view (e.g.) female public speaking or females working with men as improper.
I was ogline my neighbors ex-gf yesterday, but she definitely deserves to be ogled.
Schwing!
