I meant my question not as "why" can't you
? ("why" is your added word not mine) but as a "can't" you
? i.e. can you not
I find much gets lost in the translation between my thoughts / timbre / words as applied and the net result of someone else's interpretation of (presumably) the same words.
But back on track yep, humor can be the best defuser.
keep those Moslems chuckling.