Prostate Cancer/A Thread for Men and the Women Who Love Them

Aw, that's tough, Phoenix. Glad you insisted this time...

Yes, I'm sorry to hear that your husband is so ill -- very much hope that the "very rigorous protocol" is successful.

Thanks for starting this, it's important.

Best wishes to both of you.

Re: Prostate Cancer/A Thread for Men and the Women Who Love


I don't know how it works in the USA, but here you (men) get a free test every year from 45 onwards (PSA-/cPSA-test).

Nevertheless, only few men do it: about 15%. (I'm among those few since 12 years now :wink: )

Walter- Good point. Part of the problem is that when a man is interested in his prostate health, in addition to the p.s.a., which is a blood test, he also needs to have a digital rectal exam. A lot of men are squeamish about that, and the only thing that I can say to those men is to "get over it". A moment of embarrassment is certainly worth going through than getting cancer.

Another thing. There are many fiftyish men who have elevated p.s.a. score. That does not necessarily mean that he has cancer. A condition called b.p.h. (benign prostatic hyperplasia) will often cause an increase in the psa score.

http://www.urologychannel.com/prostate/bph/

The prostate constantly grows. Often in fiftyish men, it can cause difficulty in urinating. A simple "roto-rooting" will clear up the symptoms, as well as causing the psa to return to normal.

Isn't it a shame that one has to insist on further testing, otherwise it won't be done That gives a new meaning to cancer screening and preventative health.


Thanks to you, Phoenix, your husband will get the necessary care he
needs now. All the best wishes for his health and to both of you.

Sorry, just noticed that I hit deleted unvolunatrily my good wishes whene editing my previous post: all the very best to your husband and you, Phoenix!

(And I want to add that of course all tests are done as long as necessary - free of charge - here, in Germany, that is.

Thanks for all the good wishes, guys. I really appreciate them!

The important thing now is for all of you to talk this up to your fathers, brothers, grandfathers..........any older guy that you know and love. The information may just save his life!

Phoenix - As you know from a couple of summers ago, my Dad has prostate cancer. He's been successful in holding his psa down through estrogen shots every couple of months. Not a cure, but...

I've started talking about prostate cancer more, so it's not just limited to men I love. If the conversation turns to medical stuff and allows for an easy transition, I make clear the importance of getting tested.

Sending good thoughts your way for you and Mr. Phoenix..

Phoenix, I am sorry about your husband. This is an excellent thread to post, as a way of alerting men and those who love them.

My husband had a radical prostatectomy some nine years ago. About three years ago, he registered a PSA, which should have been zero because his prostate gland was removed. It kept going up slightly. He had estrogen treatment and it went back down. Then, after the estrogen treatment, it started creeping back up again. This has all been very mysterious. They've done tests to check if the cancer had spread...apparently it hasn't. So the assumption is that there's a bit of prostate tissue left. Now he's undergoing radiation. The poor guy is only 61, and he's been through the mill. I hope this takes care of it.

Phoenix--

You and your husband are in my thoughts.

mags314- According to my husband's radiologist, often the prostate will send out cancerous "tendrils" to the immediately surrounding area. That is why simply removing the prostate will not cure the disease, if the cancer has gone beyond the gland itself.

My husband is undergoing a protocol that involves medications, injections, radiation (to take care of the surrounding areas) and eventually seeding of the prostate. As the radiologist so nicely put it, "we are going for the cure".

squinney- I think that it is so important that men come to realize the importance of early screening and diagnosis. My main purpose in starting this thread was to share any and all information that I come across. I think that the nature of this illness has not gotten the exposure that it needs.

Hmmm..............This thread appears to be "dead in the water" after less than a day. I think that it is important that more people see this, so I am reviving it!!!

It is important, Pheonix. My earlier point was that I try to bring it up even with men I don't necessarily love if the situation or conversation allows it..

Remember when Katie Curics husband died? She went on a huge campaign to promote testing / early exams for colon cancer. She even aired a segment showing herself getting tested. But, a lot of people were and are still embarrassed and won't talk about it.

I think women tend to be a little less squimmish about these things, having spread and shared all through child birth. (I still swear that was the janitor that came in to see how far I had dilated during my last pregnancy.)

What treatments are being recommended for Mr. Pheonix? What shots?

squinney- I agree about women being less squeamish. Most of us wimmens, even if some have not borne children, have had the "delightful" experience of undergoing a PAP smear, most of us having one every year.

I think that a digital rectal exam is far less threatening than a PAP smear.

What the hell guys, the only thing that you have to lose by being squeamish is your LIFE, for Pete's sake!!!

Phoenix,

You're so right. This is definetly something I'll be mentioning to the men in my life.

My best wishes to you and your hubby.

Good info, thanks for the tips!

Best wishes for your husband.

Phoenix, I hope that agressive treatment works.

I'll be hanging out here for info, mostly, having just learned my dear old dad has prostate cancer and knowing nothing about it.

Best wishes to your hubby Phoenix.

Now, how do you get your guys to go for the exam? My husband has cancelled TWO appointments that I've set up for him this year and I'm somewhat at a loss. Of course, it's been weighing on me and all of my nagging has proven useless.

I wish I could call the cops on him or something.

Free Duck- I am sorry to hear about your father. It is so important for both the patient and his interested family learn as much as they can about this disease.

One of the things that I have learned, through bitter experience, is that you need to be one jump ahead of the doctors. The patient needs to be completely informed, because there are so many paths that you can take in dealing with this cancer.

In my readings, one article said very succinctly, something like, "If a doctor does not give the patient all of the options, find another doctor". A patient's life is on the line, and it is important that he understands the risks, advantages and ramifications of each and every mode of approach, before he makes a decision as to the way he will deal with his illness.