Do they take after parents?

I don't know for sure, but I'd say that all kids are some mix of bothparents. Maybe more one than the other, but both in the end.

But maybe the traits as a wife stick to women, or vice versa?

You meant to say a husband should look at their future Mother -in-law to see what their wife will be like, right?

Well, it worked for Bear. I'm the spittin' image of my (wonderful) mother. He loves her to pieces, too.

correct.

I am wired like my father, except that with an effort of will I've been able to conquer it pretty much, thank goodness for all involved.

Yes that's what I meant to say, thanks for clarifying it up Squinney.


So Bear, I've gotta ask, did you really take a good long look at Squinney's mother and then make your decision? Or would you have still gotten married had you not liked her mother so much?

I also believe that looking at the entire family of a prospective wife/husband
is crucial. One can learn a lot by noticing the interaction between family members and how respectful and loving they're with each other (or not).

We have a saying "the apple doesn't fall far from the tree"
and it's true.

I've also heard the following advice to woman on choosing a husband - observe how he treats his mother, because that's how he will treat you. In my experience, that holds true.

I feel that as one gets older the more one notices the things they have uniquely inherited from their parents. All kinds of mannerisms show up later in life that have alot to do with outr parents. I am more like my Dad that ever without even trying. Sometimes I say I wish I had more of my Dad because he was so excellent in some ways. it's truely a mystery how much one gets from their parental units.

Yes, Bear, I want to know too.

Did you take a long hard look at my mother???



The funny thing is I am just like my mother in mannerisms and expressions even though I barely knew her until I was in college. My parents were divorced when I was three. I went to live with my Dad at four and only saw my Mom for a couple of hours at Christmas.

no but I did catch her peeking at me once in the shower....

Yes, the apple doesn't fall far from the tree. BUT, what becomes of that apple, although similar in many ways, has a life of it's own. It will react differently when it rains, blows, hails, or freezes. As it is similar, it also has a personality of its own. Put some pressure on the trunk, and it will grow a different way.

WOW! One more beer and I might quit my job and filosify and tell the phuture! Even start up a better spell checker! :wink:

You gotta take a look at the WHOLE picture. Many times you won't see what your looking for till its too late. I never saw that fry'n pan in the pic I was look'n at, hit me rite-up-side-da-head! :wink:

Wise words, LuckyLad.

squinney, bear: as of last week, I too live in Raleigh, NC. Maybe I'll see you around :wink: