Oh my goodness.
Congratulations on legal custody, though. That's big.
Yikes, and thinking of you.
Bouncing yet another oldie, but goodie.
I'll second that. Hello Lash!
ossobuco wrote:I thought I knew what love is, for years would have answered "willing good for the loved one", but that is a little too idealistic to last as a key description for me. For some other years I would have said "love is a product of behavior", but that's missing the innate part.
Certainly we learn to love well, and to love well does involve some unselfish wish for the loved one, but it also requires some feedback, some love back at you, or else it becomes quite sere and even possibly the opposite of love, underlain with resentment.
So now I am thinking love is a process, a continuing one, and a fragile one.
As luck would have it, re love, I still agree with myself in that quote from a few years ago...
Maybe it's both. We can't really love anyone unless we first love ourselves; we can't really love anything including ourself unless we know our self very well. So, we would then have to get to know ourselves well so we could love ourselves, then maybe we can love another.
Of course the ability to love is innate. But, bad parents or caregivers sure could warp our ability to love ourselves. Sooooooo...Know thyself. Even then, we would have to choose to love someone each and every day, such as a spouse. People are not always lovable.
This makes sense to me.
How nice to bounce Rae up, as well!!
Hello! Good to see you.
I didn't notice we were on this thread 3 years ago.
Good grief.
Can't believe it, but I just went back to read more of this thread and found it began in April, 2003!
Can't believe it was that long ago either, Lash! Time has certainly flown right out my window!
Good to see you as well.....Hope this finds you happy and keeping out of trouble! :wink:
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