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Torn between two jobs, feeling like a fool.....

 
 
ossobuco
 
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Reply Fri 13 Jul, 2007 07:34 pm
Related to the ca or other stuff or some mix of both? I've no bright ideas except get an application, make copies of it in case you crumble and toss it and then change your mind, heh. You have the weekend to think about it, don't you?
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dlowan
 
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Reply Fri 13 Jul, 2007 09:21 pm
The trauma stuff began before the ca.

It really hit the fan when the boss above her traumatised her.....


The prior marriage break up didn't help.....


The ca, of course, made things far worse.


So...she was bad before the cancer, but wouldn't admit it (I garnered some bad stuff by trying to talk about it fairly assertively after a while, when the whole team were really affected by it....not that i am any damn exemplar of admitting when I am stuffed, and being a pain!!!)

After the cancers, she kept coming back and being boss for a bit, but was never functional again, and some really bad stuff happened.


Anyhoo.....I will go for the damn job (groan...these things take HOURS and HOURS) and see where the sticks fall.


I'll deal with the Helen stuff if I get it.
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Noddy24
 
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Reply Sat 14 Jul, 2007 05:55 am
Dlowan--

Hold your dominion.
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sozobe
 
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Reply Sat 14 Jul, 2007 06:48 am
Ooh, that does sound fraught.

I think it's one of those things where if she gets mad about it it's just kind of her problem. You have every right to apply for the job.
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margo
 
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Reply Sun 15 Jul, 2007 08:52 pm
Deb

Go for the job, f'gudness'sake!

Better than the present job?

I'm sorry to hear Helen has further problems.
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dlowan
 
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Reply Mon 16 Jul, 2007 03:04 am
Yeah...it sucks.


If there is a bright side, it is that it appears to be the second (more treatable) cancer that has metastasised.

We had afternoon tea together yesterday...and had a great time.


She is handling this way better than before.....but it sucketh mightily.
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margo
 
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Reply Tue 17 Jul, 2007 09:18 pm
Did you mention to her that you thought you'd apply for the job? (You have applied, haven't you?)
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dlowan
 
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Reply Wed 18 Jul, 2007 06:31 am
margo wrote:
Did you mention to her that you thought you'd apply for the job? (You have applied, haven't you?)


No, and no.



It'll take hours......need to do it this weekend.
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JPB
 
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Reply Wed 18 Jul, 2007 08:10 am
Glad you had tea together and that it was a great time.
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Noddy24
 
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Reply Wed 18 Jul, 2007 01:30 pm
Dlowan--

Your delicacy of approach is inconvenient in your personal life, but invaluable in your professional life.

Hold your dominion.
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dlowan
 
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Reply Wed 18 Jul, 2007 04:29 pm
Noddy24 wrote:
Dlowan--

Your delicacy of approach is inconvenient in your personal life, but invaluable in your professional life.

Hold your dominion.



Lol!


I am about as delicate as a hungry wombat!
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Noddy24
 
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Reply Wed 18 Jul, 2007 04:47 pm
Ah, but when a hungry wombat chooses to tip-toe....delicacy in action (or at least in focus).
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dlowan
 
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Reply Wed 18 Jul, 2007 04:54 pm
Noddy24 wrote:
Ah, but when a hungry wombat chooses to tip-toe....delicacy in action (or at least in focus).


Snorkle!


They're like hairy Mack trucks.
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ossobuco
 
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Reply Wed 18 Jul, 2007 04:55 pm
But cute... (I think I've only seen photos).
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Noddy24
 
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Reply Wed 18 Jul, 2007 07:52 pm
Nonsense. It would be possible to stage Swan Lake with an all-wombat cast.
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margo
 
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Reply Wed 18 Jul, 2007 08:16 pm
Noddy24 wrote:
Nonsense. It would be possible to stage Swan Lake with an all-wombat cast.


It'd certainly lose something in the delicacy and finesse stakes!
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Diane
 
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Reply Wed 18 Jul, 2007 08:22 pm
Thinking of you, Deb. I like what soz said--I would bet she would be relieved to know someone good was taking over her job. Yes, it might sting--the complications and reasons why she can no longer function add enormous complexity, but as Noddy said, hold your dominion.

There, by using two of the best posters as my research people, I didn't have to do a thing but give you excellent advice.
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dlowan
 
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Reply Thu 19 Jul, 2007 02:18 am
Noddy24 wrote:
Nonsense. It would be possible to stage Swan Lake with an all-wombat cast.



The Dance of the Dying Swan, as performed by a wombat:


http://static.flickr.com/94/231625156_db71494dc6.jpg
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Noddy24
 
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Reply Thu 19 Jul, 2007 06:05 am
An all-wombat cast deserves a professional set designer.
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dlowan
 
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Reply Fri 27 Jul, 2007 02:30 am
Well, did the bloody thing, all 20 pages.


**** of a week, so it is crap....but done.
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