The Case of Pornography

Or when you are surfing the internet for hot girls you keep clicking on new websites until you find what you like. This can take hours of your time

Yes, precisely; not directly related to it, but only indirectly, at not on all cases. There is a variety of adult entertainment- this I understand.

As I posted earlier in this thread, I felt as if the female actress was slightly "slave-handled" here and there, and not always. To my reception of it, she seemed to enjoy it only in particular scenes, and not in others. And the sex was a tad harsh; and, it seemed to me, painful, not enjoyable.

I do not know. Maybe it is just me. Others have told me (even in this thread) that for my age I should be more sexually open, and not "repressed."[/[/i]quote]

This is exacty the point I was trying to make. We take our cues about how we "should" be sexually from things we see (porn) in the case of some, or even from what strangers might say on an internet forum. This is the part that kind of scares me.

It's not just you- and even if it is just you - that's okay. Because when it comes to sex, consent is everything. Whenever power and control is inserted, in any way, even in just the suggestion that because you don't feel comfortable doing something, you might not be "normal", it becomes a manipulation of some sort and yeah, that's bothersome.

I'm a pretty sexually open person - not gonna go into detail - but you can take my word for it- and as open as I know myself to be - I can see the validity in some of your questions.

Why didn't my quote from Noblecon get put in one of those nice, neat little boxes with"Noblecon wrote" in bold like everyone else seems to be able to get? Do I need to do something besides clicking on quote? Can somebody help me out here?
(Along with being a porn "virgin", I'm also somewhat of a technological idiot). Thanks.

NobleCon wrote:

One more note: there are many items in your posts (on this thread) parados that speak of me without proper evidence- brief and loose replies in a forum are not sufficient to arrive at such solid claims about my own tastes in sex and of my sexual history. This is not appropriate in the least.

We can only gather that you do not approve of such behaviors you see in these films and therefore do not engage in sex that is in the least bit straying from the "norm" of traditional sex. What else should we think?

NobleCon wrote:

You ask if anyone is turned on by "traditional" relations anymore? There are some out there...so I hope.

Traditional, how? What is "traditional" sex? I hate to be the bearer of bad news but people didn't just learn how to have "dirty" sex. It's been around as long as sex has.

We can only gather that you do not approve of such behaviors you see in these films and therefore do not engage in sex that is in the least bit straying from the "norm" of traditional sex. What else should we think?

Traditional, how? What is "traditional" sex? I hate to be the bearer of bad news but people didn't just learn how to have "dirty" sex. It's been around as long as sex has.

I want to know why Nobelcon hasn't answered either of my questions. I am genuinely interested in his answers.

This is exacty the point I was trying to make. We take our cues about how we "should" be sexually from things we see (porn) in the case of some, or even from what strangers might say on an internet forum. This is the part that kind of scares me.

It's not just you- and even if it is just you - that's okay. Because when it comes to sex, consent is everything. Whenever power and control is inserted, in any way, even in just the suggestion that because you don't feel comfortable doing something, you might not be "normal", it becomes a manipulation of some sort and yeah, that's bothersome.

I'm a pretty sexually open person - not gonna go into detail - but you can take my word for it- and as open as I know myself to be - I can see the validity in some of your questions.

Gotta add one more thing parados to your list.

4. Anything goes during sex, provided both partners are consenting adults.

I don't want Noblecon to think I am saying he should be more freaky. What he does in his bedroom is his own business. I just want him to know that just because he doesn't think it is "normal" doesn't mean it's wrong or bad.

Bella Dea wrote:

Gotta add one more thing parados to your list.

4. Anything goes during sex, provided both partners are consenting adults.

I don't want Noblecon to think I am saying he should be more freaky. What he does in his bedroom is his own business. I just want him to know that just because he doesn't think it is "normal" doesn't mean it's wrong or bad.

I would lump your number 4 in with my number 2. What can be more intimate than sharing all those kinky desires with someone else, let alone acting them out?

parados wrote:

Bella Dea wrote:

Gotta add one more thing parados to your list.

4. Anything goes during sex, provided both partners are consenting adults.

I don't want Noblecon to think I am saying he should be more freaky. What he does in his bedroom is his own business. I just want him to know that just because he doesn't think it is "normal" doesn't mean it's wrong or bad.

I would lump your number 4 in with my number 2. What can be more intimate than sharing all those kinky desires with someone else, let alone acting them out?

True...but you don't need true intimacy to do the nasty. You can have kinky sex with the one you love but also kinky sex with a stranger. Which is why I think it's different.

I can see the validity in some of your questions.

I don't want Noblecon to think I am saying he should be more freaky. What he does in his bedroom is his own business. I just want him to know that just because he doesn't think it is "normal" doesn't mean it's wrong or bad.

aidan wrote:

I can see the validity in some of your questions.

Unfortunately this would require NobleCon to take a stand on the issue and say something meaningful.

For example. "The increasing violence of pornography is bad, because it will encourage people's sex-lives to become more violent." Would be a complete statement. Opinion and justification neatly expressed.

However as of now what we've seen has been mostly an attempt to express an aesthetic distaste in terms of overriding moral generalisations. NobleCon either needs to admit that he simply doesn't like a particularly variety of pornography, or he needs to actually make a stand one way or the other on the issue and provide reasons for it.

You don't have to like pornography. You can even want to ban it. But be clear about your reasons and where you're coming from.