Need different opinions about some girl I think is weird

She's never been in love and she collects engagement rings. I don't think I would be much interested in her, but get her another engagement ring if you feel like it. Unless I miss my guess, she will soon be showing some other five engagement rings.

Where I come from, it is usual to return an engagement ring if the wedding is called off and the relationship finishes. No decent girl would hang on to a ring. Of course, where I come from, these days engagements are seen as old fashioned.

Actually, it depends on who ends it. If he does, at least under the law in some areas (laws differ on this - yes, really! We studied this in law school), then she gets to keep it. And of course if he says it's okay for her to keep it, then that's fine.

I'm thinking this young woman wants to get a full matching set. She needs an engagement ring for her thumb.

In Britain, at one time engagement rings, and other engagement gifts from third parties, were liable to be considered 'conditional gifts' and could therefore be the subject of a court action for recovery. The expenses of a court action might have been justified in the case of an expensive ring or gift (such as property or land). However in the early 1970s the law in Scotland and also England and Wales was expressly amended to make engagement rings 'unconditional gifts'. Other gifts could , it was felt, be safely left to the existing laws on unjustified enrichment.

I believe different states in the USA have varying laws on this. Some states have 'fault based' laws where the ring does not have to be given back to the giver, if that person was responsible for the break-up. Others, including Kansas, have a blanket approach where the ring always goes back. The Kansas Supreme Court said in 1999 that in many cases it was impossible or very difficult to prove 'fault' on one side or the other, and quoted some examples of reasons given:

Nothing in common

Cannot stand prospective in-laws

Minor child hostile towards prospective step-parent

Adult child will not accept prospective step-parent

Pets do not get along

Too hasty in proposing or accepting the proposal

A rebound situation which is now regretted

Untidy habits that irritate the other

Religious differences

Great list.

You'd think that checking out pet compatibility would be done at an early stage of a relationship, but then I am a long way from Kansas.

Back in the day when I got engaged on occasion, the word was to make sure you got engaged on Christmas or your birthday - then the ring would be considered a gift not specifically tied to the engagement and there was no requirement to return it.

I'm actually not sure what the unusual/weird thing is that you think you're asking about.

What I find weird, unusual and unpleasant is the girl's fondness for trophies, the fact that she has been "engaged" four times yet never in love, and her apparent cold-blooded self-centredness. Maybe it's because she is from a rich family, although I have met people like her whose families were not rich.

Poor girls collect movie and concert ticket stubs to remember ex's by while rich girls collect diamond rings and sport cars.

Juan
Do you think you are the one who will finally control her? She really is trying to challenge you!

Be very careful and realize you are being seduced . She wants you to be her next ex!

Thanks mate, I was starting to feel I was the only one who was thinking that way

Of course, we only have a partial picture; you are the one on the spot. In her culture it may be normal to keep engagement rings; also the engagements may have been arranged for her. She may be very unhappy underneath - for someone who has never been in love she shows a big interest in the topic of love and its symbols.

Whichever it is, cold hearted ice queen, or poor little lonely rich girl, (or maybe a mixture of these) - be careful!