@PUNKEY,
He blames his wife for spoiling the kids. He doesn't feel he is to blame because he believes he didn't really raise them.
From what I see is that he enables them and then resorts to harsh discipline, not even I like. There's constant friction between him and his teenage daughter. He pinches his son to get his attention.
All this flip flop of indulging and then disciplining is chaos.
I wouldn't mind the kids so much if they weren't so time consuming and a financial drain. I work a lot of hours and sometimes on the weekend, so I do get agitated and resentful.
I'd like to know the correct way to deal with this without running out on a good relationship.