My fiancee wants me to wait another 3 years for our wedding, what's your opinion on this

Caring for parents and siblings and fixing their house could take a lifetime. I don't believe it would work for me. I don't know about you.

Dunno but reading between the lines it sounds like an arranged marriage that is currently a long distance relationship and that she doesn't sound as interested in as you, and that you are desperate and think it's your only chance. It isn't, and maybe she is interested in moving to the US more than the relationship but isn't ready to abandon her family there.

But like most of these relationship questions we really have no idea what you are dealing with and you are going to have to figure it out for yourself. We can only guess blindly and that's no way to decide things like marriage. You need to talk and decide what you want to do and internet strangers aren't gonna be much help here.

Doesn't sound too terribly fair to me, but only you can decide whether she's enough to wait around for.

Recognize that the longer you wait, the harder it will be for either of you to find another mate. But also, being 'connected', even if you're not truly connected or care about each other, is a kind of avoidance behavior. She gets to call off guys by saying she has a boyfriend. You get to avoid looking for a girlfriend or wife because you allegedly have someone.

Nowhere in there do you say you love this woman. She just seems like someone to marry and lose your virginity to. I realize not everyone has the same ideas about love or marriage or virginity, but the bottom line is, this woman does not seem to be overly special to you. And the same seems to be true in reverse.

I don't advocate threatening someone with a breakup in order to get them to marry you; that's a recipe for a 6-month marriage at the longest. But you should have a talk. Not an online chat, but a phone call. A Skype call with video would be best. Explain you're unhappy and offer her a chance to end it. But also tell her you won't hang around another three years. It's enough already.

She may be relieved. And you probably will, too.

Her opinion is worth a whole lot more than mine or anyone else here.

My opinion (for what its worth) is she knows whats right for her.