@cpearl,
Quote:I recently started talking to a girl about 3-4 weeks ago
Only 3-4 weeks into talking to her (and if I am reading this right, only 1 meeting) and you are so invested in her that you know she is the girl for you? Heck, I've been married for 33 years and I'm still trying to figure out if my wife is the one for me.
Maybe she sensed that you were moving way too fast and she needed time. Maybe, as you were wondering, after meeting you she decided that you just didn't appeal to her and she is trying to back away without hurting your feelings.
Quote:I told her that I was so confused on what's happening between us, I said that I need to know where I stand with you as it was killing me and making me so depressed that we weren't talking as much and talking the way we was before all this happened.
After 3 weeks of talking and 1 meeting you want to know where you stand with her? No wonder she backed off quickly. And really, you get depressed about not talking to a girl you'd only been speaking to for 3 weeks? I think you need to learn how to handle your feelings a bit better. (Not trying to be a jerk here, just trying to help with an honest opinion.) You need to have some self-worth here so that you can better deal with rejection. Dang, I could tell you some stories about girls I've been attracted to and believed we had something that COULD be long term, only to be rejected. And I certainly did not start thinking long term or become overly invested emotionally after 3-4 weeks of talking. So seriously, you need to step back and not jump all in emotionally until you actually start seeing someone on a regular basis and establish a friendship that is based on more that 1 meeting.
As someone else previously stated, you may also want to at least listen and think about what your friends and family are telling you. They know you best. And hopefully have your best interests at heart. (That's not to say you should always follow their advice, but you should listen and hear and consider what they are telling you.) I would certainly give their advice more weight than any advice you get here on A2K, and that includes mine.
Good luck to you.